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writes: Im feeling a bit fed up with the routine I have with my girlfriend. We have been going out not for a year and as none of us can drive yet find it difficult to do new things together.I find my girlfriend very repetative and irritable at times. All year round she goes on about presents and what shes going too spend her money on. As its christmas she has been going on about it even more too the point im not even listening to her. I find her very materialistic and spoilt and if she doesn't get her own way she cries.Our routine at the moment is just the same, I go up to hers and sit in her room all night and do nothing but watch TV. Sitting in her room for ages gets very tedious and her face only lights up when her mum says 'she has got her somthing for xmas'. She has lack of enthusiasm when I go to hers and just wants too lie in bed all night in her pajamas. I find it really annoying and im fed up of it.What can I do too try and change this?
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reader, guylostinlove +, writes (17 December 2006):
You probably can't. She's lazy. Well, that's how I would label her. And, it's probably because her parents condone it. With that being the case, you're very unlikely to change her. Though, since you mentioned that you guys don't drive .. it means she and you are still teenagers. So there might be a chance you can still try to change her habits. I would say for the better.
So, try and drag her out to do activities. Insist on it. Perhaps you haven't been assertive enough and she's had her way with you when you've wanted to try something new. Coming right out and telling her that she's lazy isn't going to help. So, try to think of ways to get her out of bed. Have her to go your place sometimes ...
Also, I wouldn't pamper to her every need (like her parents might) ... that's just condoning her lazy attitude. Since you are getting sick and tired of it ... that means, if she refuses to do what you want (go out, get out of bed, etc) ... you might have to resort to the silent treatment and make her think why you're ignoring her. Perhaps that will help get your point across.
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