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writes:Ok, so I'm a 15 year old girl and am experiencing, 'issues' with my best friend. Around five months ago my friend got together with a boy that she really liked, and she's really happy with him. At first I was really happy for her, but now, not so much.As harsh as this sounds, she never shuts up about him, she finds a way to bring him in every conversation, and gets impatient and annoyed when I don't want to talk about him. And because I'm the only person who knows about them two being together, I'm the only person she can talk to about it. [she isn't keeping it secret because there's anything bad about the relationship, she just wants to gauge about how her other friends would react about the situation]I'm getting sick of hearing about him, at first, I thought it was cute and sweet, but now I'm getting really irritated about it. Even when we go on girly days out, she still finds ways to talk about him. I understand she likes him and all, but she's acting like he's the only other person in the world.I really don't want to end our friendship, but if she doesn't stop treating me like a diary, I'll have to, so what can I do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 February 2012):
 if you are the only friend she can talk about it to then you are in a special position as she needs to work through the whole thing. It's new to her too..
you should tell her it's annoying and tell her that she needs to stop keeping him a secret so that she has others to talk to about it.
and remember when you get a boyfriend you will want to talk about him a lot too...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012): Try and get the message across by ignoring everything she says about her bf. Whatever the converstaion is about, if she mentions him, stop it there and bring up an entirely new topic or if you can, act like you haven't heard her. Don't you mention him at all.If this doesn't work, then say to her (nicely) something along the lines of "look I know how much you like him but can you please not bring him up all the time, I feel like I can't have a proper conversation with you anymore - I feel like you're just using me as a diary".If she still doesn't get the message, or gets offended then would be the time to cut contact.If anyone talks about anything enough it gets irritating and yes most people will want to mention their new bf/gf but also have enough consideration to talk about other things too. Not just their own life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012): Sounds like you are a bit jealous and petty.
I am sure that when you get a boyfriend, you will want to talk about him to your friend.
Be happy for your friend.
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