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writes:hello everyone, first of all thanks for your time you spend to help me, i think im having a crush on my own girlfriend, here is our situation , we are in LDR for about 2 years and for some reasons we didnt see each other in this 2 years, anyway i know you would call me a bad guy since i kinda used to cheat on her with other girls where i live now even though i love her and i know that she loves me too and would never cheat on me . anyway lately somehow i started to have strong feelings for her like really crazy feelings, when we tlk online or something i get so upset if she takes long time to reply or if shes talkin to other peopleor even if she hang out with her guy friends, i dont know its jst crazy i think for somehow i feel like i love her soooooo much now and im so jealous like crazy i dont know how come i just feel like that suddenly i just wanna know if you guys have some kind of explanation or if it happened to you beforethanks a lot
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): Definitely guilty, because you now know how unfulfilled you were after you cheated on her.
You now have on your mind, ‘what would happen if she did the same to you but didn’t feel as guilty?’ She’d dump your ass my friend, and that’s probably why you are starting to care for her now. You don't want her to leave your life.
You took what you two had for granted and are now stuck in a rut. I’ve never cheated so I don’t know what you’re going to do. All I know is LDR’s are hard, and you seem to have failed.
From what all of my friends have told me about their cheating stories, they’ve never revealed this to their girlfriends, ever. But then again, neither of them have been in love.
Tell her the truth and she may forgive you (one day at least) or wimp-out and lose her eventually, forever.
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reader, emmss  +, writes (6 October 2010):
 I think this is a fairly easy one..It sounds like your 1) in love and 2) feeling just a little bit guilty.Guilty because of the times you cheated on her, and because now your in love with her, you feel worse about it. Your in love m'dear, simple really. And because your in love with her, you don't want her to leave you because you cheated.However,you cheated on her. You need to tell her, if you want this guilt to go away, if she loves you as well, you'll find a way to work the relationship out. But if she ends it, then you'll have to accept her decision. You can't go on lying to her, it isn't fair. You wouldn't want her to do that to you would you.Also, you never know when your going to fall in love with someone, it's just that it's happened to you now. And your not exactly sure what it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): yeah this feeling comes and goes, you are IN LOVE my freind, its a messed up thing to have whenyou are in a LDR! just take it as it comes, it will come in waves... one min you wont care, next minute you will feel so strongly and get upset over nothing. thats life my freind! goodluck in your journey and i hpoe ti works out
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