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writes:Hi all,Another Q from me, yep.So I'm 19 and have never been in a "proper" relationship before. I'm ready to get into a serious relationship and settle down so to speak but it just isn't happening.I'm pretty laid back and will get on well with anyone and anything, whether it be a male or female or a donkey or a goat I'll get on well. I've been told I don't need to try to be liked. Ok, fair enough.It really hurts to see people my age holding hands and smiling together I just wish I could find that special person and soon.I'm not fully confident but it's slowly coming back. I'm shy and not the most confident beause of the happenings between '96 and '04. I had severe epilepsy in which I would have a seizure almost every day. I couldn't go out much due to this. Now please don't go saying anything about epilepsy does this and that because having it for 8 years I know almost all the ins and outs of it so no lectures there please.Now that's out the way. With my current status I've begun feeling down and empty as if nothing good is happening in my life. I actually feel unwanted, that's how low it's got. Is there anyway I could cheer myself up at all someway?Thanks for any help given,Pete
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (4 August 2007):
Peterk5699 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Just a small update. I'm now in a long distance relationship and feel like I'm really in love.
It's so ironic how we met though. And I'm sure would like a laugh outta this so here goes:
I went to Download (Formerly Monsters of Rock) in June of this year and while waiting for Linkin Park for 30-40 mins the camera was going round the crowd going to all the girls on shoulders who were flashing for the cam and I actually saw my now-girlfriend on the screen and though "Wow! Sadly I won't be seeing here again though" and then 2 months later we get chatting on Flirtomatic and finally we start going out together and are hoping to meet in London on our 1 month anniversary.
This has to be the most ironic thing to happen to me....in the history of 19 years on this planet.
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (26 July 2007):
Peterk5699 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the nice, answer, my fellow Pete. I'm currently on a site called flirtomatic and I've met a few people close by but nothing's happened.I didn't really wanna say it bt it's true that there isn't anything good in my life. OK, I have friends who are the coolest people but I feel down cos of the aforementioned status, the fact that I have no job which I'm desperate to get and I can't manage to get anywhere with my music.Saying that though, I am in no way suicidal. I never have been and hope to never be. IMO suicide gets you nowhere apart from 6 feet under the ground. I wanna get somewhere in life and preferably stay alive.Thanks for the help.Pete
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): Hey Pete
I was in your situation at 19, I'd never been in a proper relationship. I remember feeling so lonely and felt like there was something wrong with me. The thing is all the time I felt like this, I never met anyone. One evening I went out, the idea wasn't even in my head, I was just out with friends having a good time and that is where I met someone to go on and have a really great happy long relationship.
Really you need to concentrate on things that make you happy that aren't dependent on other people. Cheesy as it sounds, you need to become comfortable and happy with who you are. As soon as you are, you'll find that girls are naturally attracted to you and you'll be that person who is holding hands and sickeningly smiling in to the eyes of their girlfriend and you'll look back on now and wonder why you let it bother you so much.
You say it is as if nothing good is happening in your life, but the only person who can change that is you!
There are so many things you can do to meet new people, and get involved in things that interest you that you seriously can't say that there is nothing good that can happen, you just need to make it happen. Make a few decisions and before you know it so many new people and new things will be in your life that you'll stop feeling down and empty, I'm sure of it.
All the best with whatever you decide to do.
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