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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:my bf, of 2.5yrs, is addicted to porn- since the beginnig, every chance he gets he's on the computer- you guessed it- watching porn. it's all the time and he of couse denies it- always with an attitude- which is funny(ha) cuz i like porn and have suggested we watch together!!!! ne way, up until a few weeks ago, it has only caused minor problems w/ our sex life/relationship...that was when he started hiding in the garage w/ his laptop 24/7-no joke- people come over and they sit in the garage w/ him (he doesn't even wanna hang out w/ me anymore reall-ouch) while he's XXXsurfin.it bothers me when hides and looks and then comes to me for sex...that's not always the case, but i have never really been insecure and now im starting to wonder if he still wants me...which he says he doesSO-i could go on and on, but i wont.My question, problem is: yesterday he slept in bed w/ me and actually hung out in our room w/me for a while. ne way we were going at it-good i thought, when he started to act the way he does when he is getting tired and out of breath-so i asked him if he(his pecker)wanted kisses, or for me to get on top- no he says(like always) and half assed keeps going-then he kinda fell out as i kinda pulled away and started 2 go down. he stopped me -something he has never done b4-and i asked him why...(usually he's out of air, tired and says im tired)HE says: WHATS THE POINT OF BEATING A DEAD HORSE!!!after he saw the tears in my eyes, he tells me its tired-this is a very rare occasion...our relationship has been rocky but the last few weeks have been hell. i am heart broken, but so in love with him. help!!!!?! this is the ip of the iceberg---guess where my guy(and his laptop r right now)
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Your boyfriend needs professional help to get over his addiction, otherwise it will ruin his relationship with you, and any future relationships he plans to have. Porn addictions are like any other form of addiction -- it will eventually take over his life. Your b/f is already showing signs of not being able to function socially with his friends or sexually with you. Unfortunately, until he sees that he has a problem, he will probably be unwilling to get help. So be prepared to sit him down and tell him what you've observed about his behavior, your sex life and the deterioration of your self-esteem due to his obsession. Provide him with the names and phone numbers of some counselors who deal with this type of problem and then tell him point blank that he needs to get help or you're not going to stay in the relationship. Give him a reasonable time line and hopefully he'll wake up before it's too late. I wish you the best.
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