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writes:Let me start by saying me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months and I love him with all my heart. He says he feels the same but sometimes I beg to differ. Anyway, lately all that's been on his mind is sex sex sex. I mean I don't mind, I love having sex with him but I don't want it to be our only topic of discussion! So last night I brought it up to him, I simply said that sometimes I feel like it's all he cares about. He somehow got offended by this and is now not talking to me! I'm so upset and have no idea what to do. Sooo what should I do? :/ Reply to this Question
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reader, xanthic +, writes (28 December 2010):
 I agree completely with Dirtball, actions speak much, much louder than words. You were right, and he didn't like that. Now he's trying to turn the focus to you and make it seem like you're the one that did something wrong. You did absolutely nothing wrong, he just lacks the maturity to accept your concerns and talk through it. Instead, he's focused on what he wants and places a lot of importance on that one thing. Focusing so much on one aspect of a relationship rather than looking at the bigger picture is definitely not a good sign, it shows where his interests lie and possibly the main reason why he's with you. I'm not saying this to be harsh, but you do need to be realistic.I hope it works out for you, good luck!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (27 December 2010):
 Tell him that part of being in an adult relationship is talking about things that bother you.
You did right by telling him what you were feeling. That's the right way to handle it. Him getting all pissy shows his lack of maturity. He needs to realize that you don't feel differently toward him, and that you were simply expressing your concerns. The way he's acting is making you feel like your concerns were even more valid.
It's never wrong to discuss how you're feeling with your partner. Addressing problems by communicating about them is incredibly important if you're going to last as a couple.
He got offended because you were right and he didn't know how to get out of it. By getting mad, it makes you appologetic. All of a sudden, you're the bad guy for trying to help the relationship. Don't fall for this shift. You did nothing wrong.
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