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writes:Okay, so I am in my early twenties and my life is real one big mess. My career, my relationships, my friendships. I wanna get my shit together. RELATIONSHIPS: i havent had a proper relationship with someone i really like/or love. I dont wanna settle for someone who i dont like. I want the ones i deserve, but i tend to shy away, act needy or desperate, maybe its my low self esteem. But i wanna change all that. I wanna get over all this fear of rejection, and have a nice relationship.(i had one which was really controlling and stressful) Im really passionate, talented (play the piano and guitar) but somehow i tend to have this shitty stage fright which fucks up everything. I cant have a conversation in a group of ppl even if its ppl i know, i tend to get into my shell and be low profile which i hate. coz i feel unheard and uneasy. i wanna go out and make new friends both guys and girls. everything is so frustrating that i have put on 10 kgs past few months and im going mad. I have so much potential, but i just dont seem to get anything right. I wanna do anything that takes to change all this. I wanna have an amazing relationship, good friends, confidence, career. I wanna be the best I can be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2012): Hi lies,
I thought what all you said made a lot of sense. I am exactly going to do that. Its been 2-3 years since I ve been stuck in a rut. Planned out a new week. Will take small steps and work on myself!
Thank you again!
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reader, Lies  +, writes (7 October 2012):
Hm, sounds very similar to me before I lost the weight and started gaining confidence. This situation is easy to solve, and in order to do so you have to break the loop. You are shy, don't make friends you become -depressed. When you become depressed you tend to eat more, scar both mentally and physically and become more anti social. This then goes in a loop.What I did first was to plan out my week, exercise daily (I know it may be hard)especially doing aerobic exercises which is scientifically proven to relax your whole body afterwards. Then plan your diet and such. Be more open, and find more similarities in your group to start a conversation with. If you can't then go into another group. Don't be scared of rejection because that is life. You get rejected from a relationship? Don't sob, learn from it just as if you get rejected from a job. Learn how to get better. By saying these, you will not only sure your self-esteem but also your fear of rejection and shyness. The further you postpone this, the worse it gets.Hope I helped,Lies.
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