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writes:i am married to an alcoholic. my son and his family of six live with us. i work 96 hours a week to try to make ends meet. i have bone cancer and i get so wore down. i am forever being told by my husband all the things he hates about me. he has left me twice but comes back. i do love him but at the same time he has broken my spirit. he has a bad temper and has broken my hand amoung many other things. he just is never there for me. he tells me that i just feel sory for myself. it would be so nice to get some help with the house or just a hug once in a while. or just someone to lean on when i dont't have the strength. i am afraid of being alone so i just keep trying and pick him up when he falls from a drunken stupor. give up things i need so he has his alcohol - so he doesn't sell my things for money. i am always there for him, but he just isn't there for me. please - what to do.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (24 October 2009):
Google An-anon and get to a meeting today! This is one of the greatest groups in the world, where you will find alot of women who have successfully dealt with EXACTLY what you're going through and will be able to tell you your story with-in the first 30 seconds that you walk in the door, and don't have a clue what to do next.It may sound scary, but trust me, after the first 10 min's you'll feel like you've just walked across the derest and found the lost tribe you'd been looking for. These people continue to be there for each other, and it works wonders. It's also free, and there are meetings everywhere and at all times.There are women only groups too, but IMO, you may really want to attend traditional meetings to, so that you can be around some men in the program, as you can learn something from them as well. I also like attending open AA meetings, where you can hear alcoholics in recovery explain what they went thought while they were drinking- hearing their stuggles can shed light on what your husband is going thought and actually give you more relief than you can understand right now.Please make the call- I assure you it will be the best call you can ever make, and you're worth it!
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