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writes:There has always been a chemisty between me and one of my best friends roommates. We ended up making out drunk at a party a couple months ago. We saw each other through our mutual friend we flirt, but nothing ever happened. Recently we ended up making out again and I went home with him, we only ended up making out. I only talked to him once after that, until we saw each other again, we were really flirty and he was putting his arm around me..ect..I had to end up leaving abrubtly that night so nothing happened. I just saw him again last weekend, all night he was putting his arms around me and being very possesive, and talking in future terms, I went home with him that night, we ended up having sex. When he dropped me off the next morning he said he would talk to me soon, I still have not heard from him. He has a child and I know that might have something to do with him being hesitant, I know its only been 3 days but im going coo coo, and just need someones opionion on how to proceed.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Well he might have lost your number.
He might be in hospital.
There are any number of reasons why he might not have called.
None of them are likely but each month someone wins the lottery no matter how small the chance is of winning the lottery.
Basically, contact him first, what have you got to loose? Your dignity?
If he just used you, well at least then you will know, and if there is a valid excuse then you will know that as well.
Don't get coo-coo. Pick up the phone.
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reader, paradise +, writes (25 June 2008):
 I totally agree with "anonymous" male, above. So if you're looking for a real relationship more than sex, forget this loser and move on. And WHEN he calls you with all the excuses, give him your own excuses why you're no longer available to him.
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reader, paradise +, writes (25 June 2008):
I totally agree with "anonymous" male, above. So if you're looking for a real relationship more than sex, forget this loser and move on. And WHEN he calls you with all the excuses, give him your own excuses why you're no longer available to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): I am a man, so listen to me carefully; when we are really into someone we'd never cut contact after having sex! Be sure of what I am telling you.
Stay away of him. He's not the right man for you, and I expect him to come back again to you saying amazing excuses, but believe me he'll be wanting only sex.
Watch out for yourself and your feelings.
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reader, bebe girlie  +, writes (25 June 2008):
I really think he is one of those guys who is after sex only. And he found that you are responding to his touches and thought that might be a chance for him. In my oponion I think you should have got to know him more before taking this big step but what happened already happened. So im sure that if he sees you again he will give you all those excuses about why he didnt call, blah blah blah...And those excuses are for jumping it to bed again.. Dont let him use you.. Just tell him that what you have both done is a mistake and smile and leave..Don let him drive you crazy AGAIN........
Good Luck
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 You will only know if you talk to him so either contact him and see if he wants to go out on a date or hang around where you know he will be to talk to him.
If he just wants to take you home again when youre both a bit drunk then ask yourself if you really want this kind of relationship with him. Fine if you do but make sure you are not going to get hurt x
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reader, Clarey +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Don't do anything. Doubtless when he sees you again he will come on strong, but I would not take him up on it unless he contacts you before that. He may not want a steady thing remember. He said he would call you, so if he wants to he will.
When you do see him again, if he has not been in touch, and he tries to get close again I would say, "Sorry, I like spontaneity, but only once. If you want to be with me again you need to make an appointment in advance!"
Then you will hang on to your pride but let him also know, with humour, that he may not be behaving in a way that you admire in a man. He needs this because otherwise there is no challenge and any attraction will be very short-lived once he has what he wants.
Don't bother going coo coo, you are fine. Just make sure you have a clear relationship with a boy before having sex in future. You won't create a relationship by doing it, it has to be there already.
If this one does not proceed to something more meaningful don't worry about it, he wasn't worth it. You are.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Hi ,
well why don't you give him a call!
You know him already, there is nothing wrong with talking to him, he may very well be busy. Stop driving yourself crazy like this.
If he turns out to be one of these jerks who as soon as he beds a girl he loses interest, you are better off knowing now that driving yourself crazy.
But 3 days isnt the end of the world. Having said that, after being intimate he could at least have sent you a little message or something.
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