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writes: My Husband after only two years of marriage announced a week ago that he doesn't love me anymore and left. He said he needed time to think which I respected then he phoned two days later to tell me the our marriage is over. He has already moved all his stuff out. I've asked hime to see a marriage counsellor but he says it won't help as he will not change his mind. I have done a lot of soul searching over the last few days and can honestly say that I did not see this coming an can't understand it. He can not give me any more of an explanation than the fact he doesn't love me and won't discuss it. He is usually a very emotional and sensitive man but has been cold and unemotional throughout this. What should I do? Is there any way I can save my marriage? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2006): i think u should sit down wiv him and chat or if he is being a selfish little man i should honsetly say leave him and go wiv someone eles its abouvis hes cheating on u
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2006): Go with your gut feeling on this, if you can't understand why he would up and leave you, then there is probably some reason behind it that you don't know about... I would follow snowbird's advice in finding out what it is. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2006): Hi I am very sorry to say he is probably seeing another woman. This is the oldest line in the world "I need some time to think" ...if he had said " I love you but I am not in love with you it would have meant the same thing. Did his attitude towards you change several months before he left. Was he always late, brief on the phone, public displays of affection kept to a minimum, change of image clothes etc, secretive with the mobile...
I think you should let him go and don't look back.. believe me people don't just leave for the reasons he has given you.. in my experience he is lieing and cheating on you. If he is going to come back he will do so quickly, but I am very sorry to say I don't think that will happen. Best wishes.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (6 July 2006):
 You poor girl! He owes you some kind of an explanation - that's the least you should be able to expect! It may be just me, but do you think that there could be a third party involved here? Or something he has found of yours which could lead him to draw assumptions - perhaps a message on your mobile, or a letter/card from someone in your past? Could he be deep in debt or in some kind of trouble?
He may be unable to confront you with this as he imagines he could not fact your reaction.. You need to find out - tell him that your mind is going around in circles, and that you are ready to listen to him whatever it is he has to say. You are in this for better OR for worse, that is the reason you got married in the first place! Also, that whatever the problem is, it may not be as bad as the things which are whirling around in your head just now, trying to find out why he is treating you this way. He has to see things from your side - what if it was you doing this to him - he would want to know- whatever it was! My heart goes out to you, it must be awful for you..Good luck.
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