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writes:My extremely introverted boyfriend went away to teachers college for 6 months to make some friends. He did it! Is great friends with his housemate and a few other people he met from school. Anyway, the time has come for me to meet him up there so we can do a road trip home together and he now admitted to me that it'll be awkward - because he hasn't told a single person I even exist.Note : I know he wasn't cheating- so its nothing like that.I'm really really hurt, I mean if you talk to me for half an hour you know I have a boyfriend!!! Let alone 6 months. He said it was because a. "it never came up" b. " he didn't see the point of telling people who would never meet me that I exist "Its not a case of us being a new relationship or not serious or something either, like I said we've been together for 3 years and talk about marriage sometimes! (not tons but, you know just the usual fleeting convos)What am I supposed to think?!?! Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (29 January 2012):
 LOL at you saying your boyfriend went to teacher's college to make new friends. I am sure that wasn't the reason.
There are a lot of people who don't go telling everybody all the private details of their lives within the first six months of meeting them, six months isn't really all that long in the scheme of things.
Think about the name you logged in to Dear Cupid with .... needy ....and ask yourself if this issue is more to do with you than him.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (28 January 2012):
Quite frankly you are over reacting. It is his business if he wants other people to know he has a gf or not. You don't have to be an introvert to not want to tell people about your personal life.
Can't you just meet them when you actually get there? Life is too short to worry about such petty things
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (28 January 2012):
 I think it kind of fits his introvert personality. Maybe it was one of those things that he didn't feel like sharing or didn't think was any one's business, it doesn't mean that he is embarrassed by you or don't love you, I think it just shows that he is a tad social awkward.
When you go to get him, you get to met the friends he made, correct?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (28 January 2012):
 I'm thinking he didn't just go to teachers college to make new friends I'm sure the primary reason was to get his teaching degree, No?
I understand that you are hurt by this because your nature dictates that you would tell the world about him but you just have to realise that he is not like you. He simply likes to keep things private and not shout them to the world.
When you go up there you should just go with the fact that he hasn't told anyone about you and make a bit of a joke about it. E.g. Yes I'm his girlfriend. He hasn't said anything about me because he was too busy meeting you and forgot about me :-)
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