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writes:Dear cupid,I havent been on many dates in my lifetime. Maybe around 3 so far. Never had a boyfriend, only casually 'gotten to know' guys but things didn't work out because they turned out to be people someone they weren't and i ended up getting hurt pretty badly.I'm 18 years old and my friends cousin introduced me to this guy he knows. We didn't meet in person but we swapped blackberry pins and started talking every single day on blackberry messenger for about a month and a bit. In that month we became really good friends and he told me around a week ago that he likes me and that he would like to see me.. he's 19 years old so he's not that much older... And yesterday we decided to meet up. He lives about an hour away by train but I went to his house and even though it was the first time meeting him I had told my friend and my friends cousin that i was going there, just to be on the safe side.He was exactly what i had expected.. He was very kind and friendly. He had told me to bring a couple of dvds so that we could watch them at his house. So once i got to the station, he met me there, we went to the supermarket, bought some snacks and non-alcoholic drinks then made our way to his house. Once we got there we were talking for about an hour, then decided to put the film in to watch, half way through he made some pasta bake for us to eat and whilst we were in the kitchen he said... "We never hugged each other at the station, may I have a hug?"So i gave him a hug but i was slightly shy so it was more of a one arm hug and he said..."That was such a stiff hug, I want a proper one lol"So I hugged him again which lasted for a few seconds.Once we ate, we carried on watching the film and he was just messing about and throwing cushions at me and nudging me... but being cute about it.He then started to mess about and started doing silly karate movements lol and kicked my bum about 3 times.We then had to cut it short because his aunt rang him and asked him to come over to her house so that he could baby sit his little cousin while his aunt went out to dinner.After he got off the phone with her he was pretty annoyed and wasn't in a good mood cos he wanted me to stay longer. And when I said "It's alright, it's not your fault". He said "No its not alright, I made plans with you and now theyve been interrupted. It's not okay"When it was time to go, he dropped me to the bus stop and waited with me for the bus to come. In those 15 minutes we were just joking around and quizzing each other on capital cities of different countries. (I dont know how that came about but it was something to talk about)As the bus was approaching, he hugged me once again and said "I'm so sorry about cutting it short, I'll make it up to you, I promise."Then when I had gotten home I thanked him for the time we spent together and he apologised twice saying that he was really sorry about cutting it short then went to bed.I havent spoken to him since yesterday evening and usually we're ALWAYS talking on bbm. I know it's only been one day but i'm just curious as to what he thinks. I don't want to rush things and start asking him what he thought of me because we've only met up once..From your point of view do you think he likes me as a friend or more than a friend?I'm actually terrible and reading signs/signals and i've made a mistake before by assuming that a guy liked me when really he just thought of us as friends so I dont want to make the same mistake twice.Thank you for any advice I receive in advance.
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reader, sha9991 +, writes (24 February 2011):
Hi,
By what you have wrote,it does sound like he likes you,exsample being playful with you,it does seem he was confortable with you.
He did say he was sorry quite alot,guys never say sorry,unless they really mean it! He said he would make it up to you,so now is the waiting game,if he did really mean it,you need to just wait for him to arrange another meeting,if he doesn't in the next few weeks,then I am afraid,that's not a good sign and he doesn't want to see you again! I am sure he will though,but time will tell!
All the best! :)
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Let's see he displayed signs of flirtation, and he was rather upset over the fact that your plans were cut short. I would say he's into you. Generally, after the first "date"(which I wouldn't consider that a first date, more of a casual prelude to a first date) a guy has a 3 day window to call. Some guys call the first day, others don't want to seem too eager so they wait till day 2 or 3.
So give him 2 more days, and on the third day it couldn't hurt to send him a text saying "Hi". That way he's reminded that he owes you. In fact, I would suggest something more like dinner at a restaurant, make it more of a date.
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