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writes:HiIm in the Uk so off to bed now, but, something has been bugging me about an ex and i wouldn't mind some opinions on it.We split 3 months ago (just over)We argued on and off for the whole yr of our relationship. It was a nightmare and i didnt ever really fall for the guy. I stuck it out in the end for the last few months for reasons which arent relevant.Anyway, since then the rare times we do speak (i would rather not because im still annoyed he lied about things) he tries saying how much me and my kids were his world. He will always love us. Sends me a letter last week saying similar. Yet he's slept with his ex since we split (i laughed at that and he said' so you have never had sex with someone you dont have feelings for??' meaning him of course!)Hes got off with his mates wife (his mate doesnt know, my brother told me, my ex doesnt even know i know)And hes supposedly 'shagging' some 40 yr old he met called Jane.Now tonight i get a txt from him saying his daughter says hi (shes 10 the same as my daughter) I didnt reply. And last night hes txting saying i should go to counselling because he did it and is on the mend about his past now.I replied with 'jumping in the sack with your ex is on the mend??? Good luck with that' Anyway what im wondering is have any of you had someone constantly tell you, its you with the problem, even though they admit you were right not to trust them after you split?Because i just find it extremely frustrating that he doesnt get the fact he lied, i knew he was lying and yet hes telling me i was in the wrong by not believing what he used to say, even though at the same time admitting it? ArrrggggggBecause of this bothering me i am going to go speak to someone. But WHY does it bother me? I didnt like him in the end anyway and didnt even like sleeping with him. Why would someone like that actually annoy me so much?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCheers for replying.
It just winds you up doesnt it! I keep thinking i would rather move because near on every night hes in the pub next to my house, hes hanging out with my brother there too, my brother works for him and i just wish the guy would vanish off the face of the earth to be quite frank!
All ive heard about is how hes been with 3 women since we split 3 months ago, i dont actually believe it for a minute, its his sly way of trying to p me off, by saying things to my brother, then my brother (innocently) passing it on to me. Im gonna have to stress to my brother i dont want to hear it.
I didnt want to do that before because i dont want my brother thinking i have feelings for the guy. But thats a pride thing and pride comes before a fall doesnt it! So i need to lose that. And moving would be a bonus! although my kids like their friends here.
Thankfully changing my number tomorrow so that sorts that one.
I hope you get on ok, a week ago? things will still be up in the air.
I hope you do ok. He sounds worse than the loser i was with!
C xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): i totaly undastand where ur cumin frm.... Men who say that they cnt trust there partner usualy use that as a excuse cus they no u cnt trust them!My ex (we broke up 1wk ago) ad th same attitude wi me, he told me that he loved me but cud neva c him trustin me. I did evrythin 2 mek him trust me + i thought we were perfect 2getha, then i found out that he ad tuk his ex on a dirty wknd. He broke my heart.Babes, uv ad a lucky escape! Realise that u can do beta than that + ignore his txts + stuff. Dnt think bowt it 2 much cus u jus dwell on th whole situation. I did + stil am. Jus move on + 4get that prat! Hpe u get it sorted + gud luck in th future!
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