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writes:Hi guys!! So this really isn't a relationship question, but i don't have anyone else to turn too, so i'm just gonna ask you guys!Last july I passed my last year in college (studying culinary arts) with flying colours, and will be graduating next december. As soon as i finished school i started a full time job in a confectionery. After 2 weeks working i felt that i wanted something more in life and so decided that i'm going to apply for another college to get my honours in teaching. As soon as i told my boss about this he got furious and started talking shit to me, so the next day i quit my job, so that he can learn a lesson on how to respect people! I was fed of him treating me like a dog (i had been working with him part-time for a whole yr before i started full time) , and doing the dirty stuff for him, so i just quit!! Now i wish to find another job, but i don't know for what reason, i have lost all interest in working in a kitchen, something that i have been aiming for 4 whole yrs! It's like i've lost direction in my life and don't know what to do! I applied for that college i talked about, but i still need a job cause i'm only 20 and have to pay my own car and stuff!! Pls guys do you have any advice on what i should do! I really feel depressed right now! I feel like i've wasted 4 yrs of my life! I'm really lost and confused! :(
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 August 2013):
 Let's see...
my brother not only studied and graduated Culinary institute... he taught there for a bit... that was one part of his life.
he was a food stylist for a while... (making 6 figures a year and just left...even though he was considered one of the top 10 stylists in our country)
he did lab tech for a while
he was a personal trainer while he was a body builder...
now he's about to turn 50 and he's happily married and guess what he does for a living: he works in the APPLE store at the mall... and guess what HE's HAPPY and his husband does the cooking... go figure.
you are very young and you will not know what you want to be when you grow up for a long time... that's pretty normal.
you now have the great skills needed to make fabulous dinner parties for friends....
and go to school.... find something else you can do part time and be kind to yourself.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (30 August 2013):
Don't be surprised if you end up changing your mind 100 more times on what you want to do in the next decade! It happens. You become really gung-ho about something and go for it...then you realize it's not something you want to do the rest of your life. So you set your mind to something else that sounds like a great idea and a couple years into that, you might not be very much into that either! It happens and it's pretty normal.
Think of what you're good at and what you'd like to do...you'll find your way. It's also a good idea to get a degree or certificate in something a little more general that way you can benefit from it in a lot of different areas, rather than something that is specialized training for something very specific that you may not be interested in or realize it's not for a you later down the road.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2013): You're still young and you've proven that you can succeed at
whatever you put your mind to. Don't be discouraged.
He failed to inspire you. He took all the fun out of your journey. His salty discipline has taught you how to stand up for yourself. Just be careful, and not too flighty.
Now you're an exceptional cook; and on your way to being a chef. You've developed not only a skill, but an art.
So, find a job to pay the bills. Try to find something you like; but if it comes down to only a few choices, do what you're good at and trained to do.
Do your research. Be sure your next field of study isn't a profession that you'll just toss aside out of frustration; because of a lousy boss. They tend to come with almost every job.
Find yourself a mentor. There are various organizations that have been formed by women, that do just what you're looking for. They guide young women pursuing a career; and help young women to select the right path and network with people who may help along the way.
I hope there is an aunt from the UK that is familiar with women's career groups and organizations that are available. You can always research online.
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