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writes:Hi, I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years and I really want to move in together. I have been living on my own for 7 years and he is still living with his mom at 27???!! I am 25. He says he is not ready and I am afraid he will never be ready!! I really love him as he is my first proper boyfriend but I am afraid that that he will never commit. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): Hi
Sorry but I doubt that he will ever move in with you, i remember my first live in relationship ,been so excited about waking up every morning with my man and sharing a bath together, playing together and he felt the same.
I think it would be worth waiting for a new man who wants to share with you new experiences.
Good luck.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (8 August 2010):
 He already told you that he is not ready. If he is not ready at 27 and four years with you, then nothing you say or do is going to make him ready.
The real issue that you need to confront is not where he is at in his life, but why would you want to commit to someone like him when he obviously is not fulfilling your emotional needs. Your relationship with him is a reflection of what is going on inside you.
Is there any possibility that you are secretly not ready for this type of commitment either, and that is why you still continue to be with him? Are you using him as an excuse for your own fear of intimacy? If not, prove it. End your relationship with him and find someone that is on your level and quit wasting time with a boy that refuses to be a man.
-Frank Kermit
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