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writes:Hi, i feel just despair at the moment. My partner (we do not live together) is 13 years younger than me. We see each other most days and speak on the phone 3 to 4 times a day.we should have gone on holiday but he became very ill and the doctor said we shouldnt go. He stayed at my house and i looked after him etc etc. He still not well and i am taking him for hospital appts etc.he is back at his home now.He says he has feelings for me but too early to talk when i asked him if he loved me.i have met his work colleagues....he only seems to have friends on facebook. He wont befriend me on fb because he says he sees me a lot.....i become upset with this.i have met his mother regularly and we get on fine. I feel we are not moving on after 6 and a half months. He never stays over and because of a medical problem on his behalf, havnt made love for about 4 months. I do love him but darent tell him in case he runs. We are very close and discuss anything and everything.i dont know if he sees me in his future.....he justs says he likes what we have.why do i feel anxious?
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reader, map +, writes (12 February 2016):
map is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both so much for replying. I do feel concerned re the fb thing also that he never wants to stay over at mine.
i understand he wants his own space but apart from that we get on great.
yes his health has been an issue but he is improving. I just feel mixed up at times.
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reader, boo22 +, writes (8 February 2016):
 Hi hun
If he won't add you on Facebook then something's wrong there! I'm so sorry to have to tell you
He's not committed to you the way you are to him.
He probably likes you a whole lot but the scales aren't balanced.
Don't invest too much of yourself in him emotionally x
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 February 2016):
 His health is an issue, not that he doesn't see you as a life partner. He doesn't want to disappoint you and he doesn't know if he can recover from his illness. It could be a chronic thing. He could be lying in bed a lot when you both should be having fun.
You feel anxious because you are worried that you are too old for dating. So you settled with him even though he can't offer you much. It would be a sweet thing to say to him that you love him. There's nothing scary about hearing "I love you." It's just that it gives him pressure to be well and active. He doesn't like being a burden in your life and he doesn't want to waste your time in case he can't recover.
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