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writes:Hi I'm 35 I met a guy he said he was 33 and we began dating. A few months later he tells me he had lied to me he is only 28 and his reason was that if I had known his age I wouldn't have dated him. I don't know what to do the age difference scary.. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 August 2014):
 I have mixed feelings on this.
First of all a gap from 28-35 is not that big a deal IMO
I'm 13 years older than my husband.
The concern is he lied and you believed him. Do you think he will lie about other things or was this a one off?
I tend to be a bit more flexible with folks about age fibs especially if they come clean and have a good reason (he came clean early on and his reason was because you would not have given him a chance had you known the truth)
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reader, KoreanMexicanLolita  +, writes (18 August 2014):
 If you're 33 and he's 28, what's the problem? You're both adults. An example from my own life... my internet boyfriend lied about his name and his age at the start of our relationship. (He told me he was 19. Maybe he was under the assumption that I wasn't a Lolita? Doesn't matter, I love him too much.) Later he discontinued that fake identity and returned under his real name... and turned out to be 30 years old. I had no problem with it, because I only like older guys anyway, but here I digress. The point is, he has not lied about anything else, so I forgave him for this. I completely trust him. Back to your situation, OP: five years is nothing between adults, so give this guy a chance. If he lies about other stuff, then by all means break up. But if not, just continue and see how it goes.~God bless you!~
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2014): It's not that big of a difference. If you like the guy, I would let it go. It's kind of sweet even that he liked you so much that he was worried you wouldn't take him seriously. Just get to know him. If you get along, the age difference will not matter. You will hardly notice it after a while.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (18 August 2014):
 That doesn'tsound like a big old lie thatwould create a major confrontation to me. If yolike the guy, who really cares how old he is or says he is..I mean, it's not lie he was 36 and said he was 40. I dont see a problem, maybe I'm missing something?
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (17 August 2014):
 It all depends on how much you like this guy and what kind of character he has. A friend of mine was dating this girl who told him she was 30, only to discover a few months later that she was 35. This made her 5 years older than him. He almost broke up with her over this, but in the end he did not, because he was in love with her. Fast forward 3 years, they are now happily married and just had their first child.
A lot of people lie about their age initially, if they feel it would jeopardize their chances of being with someone. For some it's a deal breaker. For others it's not. If you think he is a good person and this was the only lie he told you about himself, then give him a second chance. If you feel that this lie is just the tip of the iceberg and that he could be hiding a lot more from you, then break it off.
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