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writes: Hi. I ma completely new to this so not really show why i am really even here.basically i have been with a guy for 4+ years.we got engaged last year and WERE due to be married in a couple of months. we have been through a lot of struggles, ranging from him lying to me to being in court. i have supported him through everything and stuck by him. we are the same age and he has always been reliant on me. we met when we were 18.because of all our problems when things got tough a few months ago i would question whether we should marry and i would say this to him. not once did he agree. now he has called everything off. wants to be a batchelor. we dont even see each other or anything.now i am pining for him just want everything back to normal. in my head i wonder' how well do i know him really?!' becasue it seemed like he wanted a batchelor lifestyle with all the comforts of having me there aswell.I just want him back, i miss him and dont really know what to do. do i move on or do i try to get him back? if i try to get him back, then how?
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (16 July 2006):
 You ahve both grown up and started to need different things. You questioned out loud to your fiance about your lack of faith in the relationship. He seemed to be ok, never articulating how he felt....then bang out of the blue he wants out!
I am sorry but I think he is gone for good now. I think that you both have different needs to be met now. Move on and keep an open mind. The right guy will happen along when you least expect it.
I wish you well for your future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2006): Looks like you need him to be relying on you to give you a sense of identidy. You dont need him you need space, and a sense of where you want your life to go
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