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writes: Not sure if I'm after answers or just venting my thoughts. Me and my ex started going out in Jan of this year, we fell completely for each other and as we're both 30 it wasn't some teenage obsession, we've both had serious relationships. We fell in love and knowing it was early in our relationship we still decided to move in together which went great for around 3 months. Then she flipped 180 and resented my every word and breath. I now need to supply some history, she was told she could never get pregnant as she suffered extremely from PCOS and had even ventured into IVF treatment with her previous partner. We are both responsible & had sexual health tests within weeks of meeting so imagined we never needed to use protection. She knew there was something wrong with her moods also so went to her GP and he recommeneded a pregnancy test which turned out positive. I said I would be there for her whatever we decided but she went completely mental, kicked me out of our home and subsequently had an abortion all within the last 4 weeks. I don't hate or blame her for what she did just that she was absolutely selfish and left me out of even a discussion. I can't say she made the wrong decision either, I don't know, how would you feel to be told you would never be a parent and then potentially be one? I do feel that maybe I am supposed to be reacting differently but I can't muster any anger towards someone I felt so close to, some people will think I'm a sucker and acting like a wimp, trust me I'm not; she just got into my heart.My predicament now is we have managed to communicate and be adult about things, she has apologised vehemently for what she did and is even doubting if it was the right thing to do & I've accepted and even forgiven her as none of us know this game of life inside out. She doesn't want to be with me but really wants to remain friends and I think I do also, I just don't know if its possible? Normally I'd have no problem walking away from a relationship that went badly and know that to cut ties was the only way to heal. But could the intensity of what happened keep us close as friends or just be a constant reminder?
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reader, dogga5 +, writes (22 June 2005):
Walk away now! I dont think it would be healthy for either of you to have any sort of relationship as it would be a constant reminder of the past.It would be hard to move on and you obviously still have feelings for this girl but to move on you must get her out of the picture.
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