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writes:I am fifteen, and got pregnant at fourteen. I just recently misscarried. The guy was super supportive, me and him had taken responsibility and made plans. Then I miscarried, His parents made him break up with me because they thought i had lied. We were still dating and having sex, then a week after the I had told him the news, he tells me he is going to go back out with his ex. (keep in mind we had sex every day before that) A week later, I see him with his new gf and he wont even talk to me. Any tips on how to get over him easier? What i should do ? Or say to him ? Me and him dated for six monthes last year and four monthes this year. I love the kid , but were just not meant to be. So. help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): Hunny you shouldn't have to do or say anything at the moment unless it involves taking care of yourself. You've had a terrible time by the sound of it. concentrate on getting on with life and let him get on with his until he decides to grow up and talk about it. Im sorry for you having to go through this. Here's to hoping that one day (if you dont mind me saying) when your older, you'll get the chance to experience motherhood with a responsible man at your side. Dont forget that 14 is very young even if it doesnt feel like it, and I know that it doesnt feel like it but I expect he's just as confused and hurt as you are. I wish you the best of luck. poppy. xx
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 If you really look at your relationship maybe it was just that the feelings werent there and you both just stay together because you though you should.
The best thing for you to do is step out of sexual relationships for awhile, find someone that isnt all round about sex.
Oh and go see your doctor about getting you on the pill or something, you dont wanna go thru that again trust me,
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reader, becca emma louise +, writes (3 August 2010):
i know you love him but your fifteen, you will fall in love again with someone who will stay with you coz they love you, someone who will want children with you and will let nothing and no one stand in their way. when your older then the relationship will be focused on you and your partner, not the parents. if i were you right now, then id forget him. let him go back to his ex, its better he does that now so you can see he could have been staying with you just because you were pregnant. you must be going through a lot, you just lost a baby! i myself had a mc at fourteen and i know it tore me apart and now almost a year on im just coming to grips with it. especially after making plans etc it must be tough. find some support and spend time with your friends. guys can come later when you are emotionally stable again xx
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reader, SofiaRose +, writes (2 August 2010):
You need closure and unfortunately the only way to get this is to confront him. Tell him how you feel and explain that he is hurting you. If he ever loved you (which is obvious)this news shouldn't please him. It is probably too hard to go back to being friends but you need to accept each other for your decisions.
Find yourself a nice guy, and relax with him for a while and take it easy. Teenage years can be the best, and worst, of your life!! Enjoy them :)
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