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writes:I don’t know how my relationship with my best friend/boyfriend will work.The situation is, we were best friends for 8 years, and then about 4 weeks ago I told him that I liked him more than a friend. He said he felt the same and we have been going out since then. But I am finding it hard to see us as a couple. I want to get intimate with him, but I keep thinking that it is going to be weird. I need to get over it, but I think he feels just as awkward as me. Should I wait a little longer? I don’t think our relationship is a mistake but i need to how do I get over some of these obstacles? Has anyone else had a long friendship that turned into a relationship that worked out?Thanks
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 Take things slowly. It may take some time for the transition from friends to patners, which is understandable when you have been friends for so long. Try not to question it too much or think that it will be weird or awkward. If you think like that, it will be!
Just go with it. Be open to it and see what happens. If you are best friends and you both feel there could be something more, it could turn out to be amazing! What you really need in a partner is someone who can be your best friend as well as lover. You've got the friend bit nailed - 8 years - so you just need to get the lover bit down. If you both want this to happen, it will.
Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2011): Yes, and they are usually the best and longest lasting because it is based on something really solid. Go for it - take it steady if you wish, but give it every real chance, because if you get it right, it can be the best, most loving relationship you can have.
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