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After 6 years we broke up, he wants to get back together, I've now got some else, not sure the best thing to do!!

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Question - (21 June 2006) 2 Answers - (Newest, 21 June 2006)
A female , *tpie06 writes:

Ok, so I was with my ex boyrfriend for 6 years since 12th grade. We've had our ups and downs but never anything serious like cheating. We were really good together and planned on getting married in the future. Well about 4 months ago, I started to feel less attracted 2 him pshyically and had no desire to be sexual with him. This brought obvious problems to the relationship, he was getting into a lot of new sexual things that really wasn't my style. It actually annoyed me that he was acting that way. So it showed in my attitude..anyway he ended up breaking up with me even though I decided we should work through it. He quickly began seeing a girl that lived down the street 4rom me, which made me furious. Time went on and I met somebody who I am attracted to in everyway. Now my ex wants me back n I feel horrible. I feel guilty for even thinking about being with this new guy over my ex. The truth is I don't really feel the flame we once had, but I honestly don't know how to say that. I know he loves me n I love him too, but I don't think we are good together anymore. Even if this new guy isn't "it" I still enjoy that feeling of being soo attracted 2 him that way. My ex is constantly telling me that we belong together and I often feel like I can't let him know how I feel, I'm afraid of what it will do 2 him emotionally n mentally.

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A female reader, Qtpie06 +, writes (21 June 2006):

Qtpie06 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you so much, u seem to really understand where I'm coming from.

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A female reader, camille United Kingdom +, writes (21 June 2006):

camille agony auntWell, why feel guilty? He went off with someone else. I can only guess he either didn't get what he wanted from her either and has come back, or he did and has tired of her and wants you back. To be honest, 6 years is a long time, but your history doesn't mean there's a future. I'd say, stay with the guy you're with. There's no reason that anything will be different with your ex and it sounds like you've outgrown each other even though you still have feelings, which after 6 years is understandable. Good luck.

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