A
male
age
36-40,
*evin33
writes:Hey everyone, After 5 years my girlfriend who I love to death and care for so much has been pushing me away. I am 22 and she is 21. We have been having these little arguments and she keeps bringing up the idea that if we are like this now, what will we be later. When its good, we are amazing. I know she loves me so. She now tells me that she kinda wants to see what else is out there, but doesnt know. I dont want to be that guy on the sidelines. Last night she stood me up with friends and has just been pushing me away. After arguments she wont talk to me for a week making me wonder on whether its over or not. I just cant handle it anymore because it hurts too much. I broke it off with her today and dont want to regret it. I never thought I would but I dont want someone who doesnt want to be with me as much as I do her. The hardest decision in my life. She used her birthday this coming month as a way to get to me after I said all of this. She says that I ruined it for her. I dont want to feel guilty about anything and need some advice. I actually let go the love of my life. Reply to this Question
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (1 February 2009):
 Hi there, As for me and my thoughts, if a person thinks they do not want to be around me, I do not feel the need to convince them that they do. There was a song by a country singer, "If It Don't Come Easy. You Better Leave It Alone", life is very short, you don't realize it until you look back. Do not regret what you did, you were pulling a heavy load, it always takes two to make a relationship work, and it is quite a burden when one is going one way and the other person is moving in the other direction. This is ypur only life, it should be about your happiness, as well as the person you care about. I think it was the right choice, don't beat yourself to death emotionally over your decision. Keep moving, I also believe that what is yours is yours, before you were born even, no one else will take it from you. Just like when I walked into a department store and there on the floor between the counters, was a twenty dollar bill, no one else had picked it up, it was my twenty dollar bill, so I picked it up and went on my way. Never
fret over your decisions after you have thought them out, go with what you think is best and hang in there with it. If, if, she is the person you should be with in the long run, you two will find each other in a better space and time, if she is not, there will be something better. Ever heard of two people getting married, then getting divorced only to get remarried. Let time take it, and enjoy your life, it's an adventure and we should enjoy the trip. Go to www.socyberty.com/writers/quiet+voice.8137 Look for the title: "Letting Go: Stop Chasing Ghosts", this article may give you a different perspective on the situation. Take care, but believe in yourself and your ability to make choices that are healthy for you, going forward. Sometimes love is just not enough. Stay in touch.
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