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writes:I hope someone may be able to help advise me. i ahve been in a realtionship with a guy 6 years younger than me for 4 years now. Mostly things are fantastic and we are good friend and have great respect for each other and allow each other to follow our own dreams. for the last year we have had to be long distance due to him getting a promotion and me being unable to move. i am hoping to work out a solution but we are finding it harder and harder to see what that solution is. i get the feeling that he no longer wants to make us work, but he still says he loves me and wont really come clear with his thoughts. i want to know where i fit into his future but he is not clear about what he wants in his life or how i fit into that. after 4 years i find this hard as i would not be with him unless i wanted a future with him. do we have any chance? am i delaying the pain?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for answering. I could not move when he did as I am a grad student with full scholarship and could not move. I hope to be able to spend more time this year and am looking to move as soon as I can. I have already moved once before to be with him. To complicate it further I know he wants to go traveling overseas soon which he does not say if he would like me to go with him or not.
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reader, ironman777 +, writes (8 April 2011):
hi - being in a long distance relationship myself the hardest thing is to maintain the level of intimacy that you used to have when you were together and with that comes fear about where the relationship is going etc. My question to you is, why arent you able to move - if you want a future with him, cant you move to accomodate him? My advice is dont wait to be asked just act and follow your heart and your gut. What are they saying becuase most of the time they are right. Also if it doesnt work out, dont feel regret, you gave it your best shot, better than sitting back and wondering what if....
Good luck
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