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female
age
36-40,
*milyevans
writes:My 'boyfriend' and i were together for 4 amazing months, we got on so well and even though it all happened so fast he's works away so we only saw each other on weekends, but at the start he was more in to me than i was in to him, but 2 weeks ago he wrote me an email saying he thought that everything had happened so fast and right now he just needs to be on his own for the moment. He called me up on that Friday and was very off on the phone i asked what was happening and I said are u breaking up with me and he just said I don't know then I tried to ring him over the weekend but he was ignoring me, he's got 4 weeks off work now to sell his house which he owned with his high school sweetheart. They were engaged but broke off because she cheated on him. My head is going round and round unsure of whats going on and where i stand i don't want to bug him but at the same time i want 2 know where i stand and how he feels. What do you think I should do? Should I try to get in touch with him this week or not? I do love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): Unfortunately, I think you DO have an idea of your standing with this man.
He told you things had moved too fast between the two of you and that he needed some space. This is usually not a good sign when you've been dating a while and he/she suddenly requests "space."
Maybe you did indeed have a wonderful four months, but consider: it takes time to really get to know another person and to see if you are a good match.
True, he is busy trying to sell the house. No, you should definitely not try to get in touch with him this week! You already tried calling him over the weekend without success, and when he phoned you you say he was very offhand.
Just leave it and see if he calls you after a month. He MIGHT - and possibly be more inclined to get in touch if you don't contact him - but on the other hand, he might not call. I'd say wait out the four weeks and see what happens, if he does not call then you will have your answer.
Meantime, get involved in doing things you enjoy! Meet with friends; take a day trip away somewhere - the time will go faster that way.
Good luck!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (6 August 2007):
 He has obviously got alot going on at the moment so i think you should just leave him, he said he needed space so let him have it.
Give yourself a time period which you think is acceptable and if you have not heard anything after that time period i think you will know where you stand, some times when people say they need space it's just their way of ending things with out actually saying it.
Take care.xx.
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