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writes:Hey everyone I really hope you guys could help me on this one cause I really don’t know what to do..well I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and I love him more than anything he means the world to me, but recently things haven’t been the same. He moved up north and that’s like really far from where I live. I didn’t have a issue with him moving cause I knew that we could make it work and that we wouldn’t have problems.I guess I was wrong cause lately his been ignoring me , I'm like the first one to call him everyday I know it sounds pathetic but I feel like I’m the only one putting effort in this relationship. everytime I call him he says he will ring me back cause his busy but he never does ring me back and when I do ring him back he makes it seem like I’m been clingy.He’ got a bunch of new friends and they seem like nice people because one of his friends rang my fone and said I should look out for my boyfriend and I was like "why would you say that” and he said "he just aint acting like his got a girlfriend". so I confronted him about this and he was denying it. a week later he told me that he had a fling with some girl but the girl didn’t mean anything to him and that he only loves me I just don’t kno what to think. I love him so much and I jus want things to go back the way they used to be.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Cassie918 +, writes (10 May 2009):
Cassie918 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx guys for the advise..i done just that and didnt ring him ..he rang me like evrey night just to say goodnight not even a real conversation. but ive come to realise that he doesnt really care about the realtionship as much as i do and why should i be the one cryin evrey day jus thinking about the days we were together and how good things where then.
Ending this relationship is a scary thought for me cause i dnt know what id do without him. i thought about having a break but i really dont understand what good that would do for our relationship.
please help :(..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): sometimes i have the same problem with my long distance boyfriend. the best way to make things how you want them is to make him scream a little bit! stop calling him, and if he does call wanting to know what you're doing dont tell him. As Bindum wrote, if he loves you and if he really wants to be with you he will miss you and it might be a little slap in the face for him and things will get back in balance. That has happened a couple times with me and my boyfriend, and believe me its really hard to just not call him and not talk to him, but you have to stand you're ground with this one because things will get better if you stick too it. i hope everything works out for you and him!
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reader, Bindum  +, writes (7 May 2009):
Dear Cassie, " out of sight out of mind". Well, cant give up right so we got to try. Try this: Do not call him for few days, wait for his call this time, And when he calls make the call as short as possible, tell u got to rush to go somewhere, make him feel that u are busy and u can live without him. Men get very curious that they are loosing their love. After this if he dose not call u for more then 2 days, U should call him and ask directly if he loves you, or is he seeing somebody else.(I know its not going to be easy, but if you want him u have to try something right) If he loves you he will come back to youIf now its not the end of the world dear. Life goes on.hope you get your love. Pray God for your love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): Everyone men or women, fall in love but also fall out of love, maybe he got bored? specially if you two are young and maybe he isn't ready for a commitment
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