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writes: I see a pattern in my relationships. After about 3 months I seem to not want my boyfriend in every which way. When I am away from him I can't stop thinking about him. When I am with him I am bitchy and mean. Nothing seems to go right and I take everything he says and does wrong most of the time. I don't know why I act this way. I am not getting any younger and I am tired of starting over How do I make this work and still be happy? Reply to this Question
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reader, Bowa +, writes (7 August 2005):
Hi, there unfortunately i have lost that special someone in my life bu doing exactly the same things that you are the moment. This is probably because you are not happy with you, nothing to do with your partner, I did exactly the same when i was not with my partner craved them and then when we were together took it for granted and continuosly was miserable instead of enjoying our time together. My issues were i had a few health problems that took alot out of me, damaged my self confidence etc, also a little problem at work and the main one was i was not doing the things that i wanted to do in life, i was not doing hobbies that i wanted to do, also was not in the profession i always dreamt of. These were non of my partners fault just mine, he also did have some commitment issues as he had never had a partner before and was used to being selfish and not sharing but i just drive him away in the end through me not being happy with me. We all need to learn which is a very hard lesson to learn is that we are complete people without our partners and even though we feel we are not, we are, we must never surrender what we do for the other person and become dependant, i am just trying to do this now and its harder as i do not have my partner anymore but you will find it easier as your partner is still with you. Try to get involved in other things that make you happy and you will see the realtionship will get better i am sure of it, just wish i had the chance put my advice into practice but i lost my chance. hope it works out for you both. XX
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