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writes: hello there , im 18 years old and i spent christmas in wales with my mum. my gf lives back in england and got very upset about it. I get back from walea after new years and then she came over and spent the day with me, it went fine and i loved every min of it!. the next day she came over with a big a4 sheet of papar saying she wanted a break and that she was kidding herself for to long!ive been with her for 2 years and i love her SO much and she is the best thing ever to happen to me , she said the same about me! she spoke about kids , house the usual and i really want to get back with heri didnt speak to her for about 4 days after it, but then i rung her up and spoke a few times. she says it is effecting her badly but when i speak to her it dosnt seem like it does, she hasnt made contact with me at all.what should i do??? get over her compleatly , or keep on hoping???
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioncheers for the advice guys n gals, i thought to myself toda im 18 , and young and id say good looking. so why the hell should i be tied down and worrying about a girl! thxs for ur help :D brilliant!
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (10 January 2007):
 you seem like a very patient young man but anyway get over her, i dont think hoping will help, you tried all you can and it didnt work, you are still young to tie yourself with someone who doesnt know whether she is coming or going, i mean she seem confused herself but, she knows deep down she doesnt want you anymore. you love her and she knows that i think thats why it was hard for her to tell you thats why she wrote it down. if its having bad effect on her, what are u suppose to do if she doesnt want u back? dont u hurt? so just treasure the memories you had with her and close this chapter in your book of life. someone is out there calling so run brother run. good luck
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (10 January 2007):
You cannot chase after her, this will not do any good. If she needs space, your only real option is to give it to her. Your best chance to get your relationship to evolve is to communicate with her, and this has to be on her terms as well as yours. You need to be ready to accept her as she wants to be, and what she feels differently about. That way you can start to grow as people, and as a couple, if she is willing to give you the opportunity to do so. You could suggest that if she is interested in saving the relationship at all, she could try and speak to a councellor to help her understand what she is going through. If she is not willing to give you any of these things, let her go, with love, and let go of your desire for her. Focus on yourself, and remember that to love yourself is the most important thing, and that to share your love with other people in the world is a gift, and one of the best things about life. If she is not ready to accept your love, surround yourself with friends and family who are ready for your love. And if its appropriate for you, perhaps in time another girl.
Good luck either way.
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