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writes:I was in love with this man, 1st love, you know how you think you've been in love before but then you meet someone and realise you never were? Well this was it.After a while he broke up with me, I was absoloutly heartbroken, couldn't eat, felt physically sick all the time, couldn't watch tv or sit or do anything really.So anyway some time passes and I met another man, perfectly lovely attractive man. However, I can't stop thinking of my ex, my first true love. If I go a day without thinking about him I dream about him at night, its been a year and a half since we broke up and i still think of him every single day. I feel like I've lost my soul mate. I have had absoloutly no contact with this man in a 18 months, I don't see him, text call him or even hear about him. so why can't i stop thinking of him? I heard somewhere true love takes 2 years to get over? Oh I don't know, I think I just want to know that I'm not gonna feel this way forever, that a broken heart will heal eventually.Any advice would be appriciated,Thanks Guys.
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reader, stripey +, writes (27 January 2009):
I still think of mine 3 years on! He completely broke my heart and played head games the whole time we were together, but eveytime i see someone else (as a potential love interest) i clam up and remember just his good qualities and compare everyone to him. when i'm with g/friends and we talk about past loves he's the one i bring up, and like you i don't see him speak to him or hear anything about him.i think when someone has had such an impact on your life there are no rules that say you will be over him in x many months or x many years. The pain and the heartache slowly fade and i assume will eventually become distant memories.Do what you're doing, and eventually you will turn a corner, but try not to let it spoil what you have with your new man, it'll put pressure on your new relationship and it's unfair to him. Remind yourself when you're with your new fella, all the things you like about him and how he makes you feel, hopefully this will speed the process of healing.Good luck babe
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