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writes:I have broken off an emotional affair with this guy that we had a relationship two years. i work with him and its hard but i have learned that your can cure it but you can manage the pain of a broken heart. Now he is hysterical. he always wants to know who i am talking to or where i am going and when i say that its not any of your business anymore then he goes bezerk. he is married and i really don't know what to do from this point. i am trying to be strong and not give into him. i really love him with all my heart and want to be with him but he belongs to someone else and is not willing to sacrifice any assets to be with me so there is my cure that he don't really love me the way he says. anyone have any suggestions on what i should do now. how should i handle his obsessiveness and wanting to know my ever move. i even got another phone other than my company phone to use so he can't see who i talk to. i really am out of options. and getting another job is not an options as to where i am there are really not alot of good paying jobs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): "what do you have to lose- except your life. remember this, this man will not leave you alone," so i was right, he won't allow you to be with another man. i think it is time to get a restraining order now against him. or he will definately be true to his words.
"its more less he lead me to think that he would do something that he is not sticking to." this is vague, did he promise not to bother you again initially?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni think i said in my question that i have ended it and that i am not bothering him. i didn't play with his mind. its more less he lead me to think that he would do something that he is not sticking to. so i have no reason to want to be with him. yes i do love him but i can love him to myself. i am not doing anything to instigate the fact that he want leave me alone. he does go by house and there is a shop across the road from me and he has dared them to even speak to me. his wife knows about us. and they had a conversation and he tells her he isn't bothering me anymore. but he hasn't stopped. he was ill at me today because i walked away from him. i really don't know how to stop this. i have told him point blank that he has to stop and leave me alone. That we couldn't have a personal relationship anymore and he said that if i talked to another man that he would kill me. i just want to have a normal life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): his obsessive behaviour is getting out of hand. to the point where you should start being very afraid. i don't mean to scare you but this man will NOT let you move into another relationship. he feels as though he now "owns" you. you were wrong to mess with his head. you screwed his wife around as well.
the only way to GET RID OF HIM FOREVER is to discretley tell his wife. she is the only one to stop his obsessive behaviour. i know you may think ithat i am being funny, but look at this realistically. this man is going over the top, he is a compulsive obsessive (even depressive maniac??) right now. HIS WIFE is the only one to deal with him effectively. what do you have to lose- except your life. remember this, this man will not leave you alone, he may even stalk you. he will do all these thing to have you AND HIS WIFE AND FAMILY. YES, EVERYTHING ON THE PLATE FOR HIM. this man wants the best of both worlds. if youwant just to be his second best then continue with your affair. but if you want out and if you want to live a decent, morally sound life, you need to end it now with him. or else this is the start of the end for you. and in the end you won't even recognise the real you anymore. AND HE WILL STILL BE WITH HIS WIFE.
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