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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I’ve got myself in a big mess. I had an affair with a married man at work. It was very intense and we were really close. He said I was his other half and that he had never felt so in sync with anyone like he did with me. Unfortunately his wife found my photos on his phone and the cat was out of the bag. He dropped me instantly and said he couldn’t leave his marriage and kids. Obviously I was devastated I was lead to believe what we had was special. Now I see what a fool I was. For the next 6 months he blanked me at work and pretended I didn’t exist. He was nasty to me one day whilst I was delivery work information to him. I decided to approach him and attempt to clear the air as it was interfering with work. We had a great chat. Cleared the air. He said he didn’t hate me at all, not even one little bit and he has to hide his feelings. We even flirted during this. Then he went back to blanking me again. He is constantly talking about me to other colleagues saying horrible stuff. I decided to swap onto different hours at work to see him less and he kept going on about it to other people. I asked him what was his issue? He denied it and said he’s not bothered. I told him that when he says awful things about me to other colleagues it really hurts me as I still have a lot of feelings for him. He said well that doesn’t change the situation, I am concentrating on my marriage. Again the next day he was constantly talking about me to my colleague asking about my dating life and saying horrible things again. He says he doesn’t hate me yet he is constantly saying the most awful things to anyone who will listen. I still love him but I can’t let this situation continue. I’m struggling to move on as it so awful. What can I do to resolve this? And any ideas on why he’s acting so strange? Why can’t he just try to be normal for the sake of other colleagues because I’m trying really hard.
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