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writes: To you guys out there, you you ever ask out a girl who is plain looking, overweigtht and crossed eyed. She is in hers 30's, shy, quiet and very nervous around guys. She has no experience at all, not even in the kissing or holding hads area, I think I am getting worseIs there any advice that you would give to her to get a boyfreind and to get her 1st kiss? Please I really need really excellent adviceNO SHALLOW OR SMART ANSWERS FROM SOME OF YOU WHO LIKES TO THINK HE'S SMART!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): I am not trying to be "smart" here, but I think you should see a counselor. Your biggest issues are not that you are "plain looking", "overweight,' etc. It is sad that those are the qualities with which you've chosen to describe yourself. EVERYBODY has things about themselves that they are not happy with, but there has to be something you like about yourself. Why not highlight your positives instead of your negatives? Someone else already said it, but if you had confidence in yourself, guys would notice. I guess I would be considered an attractive girl, but when I was depressed, I couldn't get any dates either. Also, men DO sense desperation and run from it. When I was really looking for someone, I couldn't find anyone! They only seem to come when I am content with myself and my life. I really think talking to someone to help you find that confidence would be a good start. I'm not trying to say there is anything wrong with you, almost everyone I know, myself included, goes to a psychologist. Good luck and keep us posted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): Judging from your last comment, I think that your main problem is that you automatically assume someone would post a shallow or "smart" answer. In other words, you assume that someone would think negatively about you without any real evidence to base your feelings on. This may lead to self esteem problems since you may be afraid that every guy is thinking something bad about you. So, in turn, you become shy and are afraid to open up. If you think you are overweight, then at least try to do something about it. Identify your flaws and do your best to fix them. Not all guys are shallow, so you have a chance if you show them how nice you can be. But to be bluntly honest... No, I probably wouldn't ask a girl out based on your given specifications. I will however, ask her out if she has shown me that she is a really nice and caring person.
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reader, kim6906  +, writes (11 January 2009):
Well you said one of the biggest problems there, shy around guys. You need to build up your confidence hun, guys like a confident woman, maybe try a couple of dating sites, put your pick on and see what happens, have confidence in yourself and maybe try smartening your appearance up, not sounding cheeky but get your hair styled, maybe try and lose weight, wear some make up because in this day and age most men are shallow and don't believe that real beauty is skin deep. I hope this helps.
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