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writes:I have been married a little over a year and things have been pretty rocky for the last 6 months. We lived a little town which totally sucked and we moved back to my home town and I thought it was the town that was dragging me down. I do not feel I even love my husband like I used to and even resent him over some things. I have fallen out of love and am thinking maybe I should just leave. I told him about this and he says he is going to change and try to make it work, but I am unsure if anything he does can save this marriage. While my husband was never around I became really close to a male friend and have fallen in love with him. I am struggling if it is worth trying to make it worth with my husband or get out now before anything else happens?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (3 July 2009):
 Affairs are never the answer. Try counseling first, then you'll know what can be salvaged.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): I don't rly see any problems going on her other than you seeming like a weak person. From the little you've said, it sounds like your husband is making all the effort to try to make things better while and you do nothing and just complain, and that complaint is a "sucky town". Not to mention you are practically cheating on him. Guess its not much of a sucky town heh. I think for his sake indeed you should just break up and tell him honestly that you are cheating on him..being honest is the least you could do.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (3 July 2009):
If you are in love with another man it is not fair at all for you to make your husband keep trying in your marriage. He will be trying and if he loves you, he will be trying very hard, but nothing he does will ever satisfy you because you will have this other man on your mind. Personally I think you should get out of the marriage, so your husband can find someone who will be in love with him. You know the grass isn't always greener on the otherside.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (3 July 2009):
 Ok,Not once in your post did you mention MARRIAGE COUNSELING!And please do not cheat on your husband. that is something you can never come back from and if you live in a small town, everyione will know...its inevitable, and it will only make matters worse in your little town.You cant find love in your marriage if you are looking for love outside of it. You need to at least attempt marriage counseling before considering committing the cowardly act of cheating. I suspect you came here looking for a green light to cheat. PLEASE HAVE THE DIGNITY AND RESPECT FOR YOUR VOWS AND GET INTO MARRIAGE COUNSELING.Do you honestly want to end your marriage without saying that you tried EVERYTHING YOU COULD? Because you aren't if you haven't even broached the subject of counseling with him.My god you ve been married only for a year? Marriage is work! ON BOTH OF YOUR PARTS! Don't take the easy way out.
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