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writes:hi. ok i need some sex advice. my and my boyfriend are going to have sex soon, we both know its right and we love and trust each other very much. we have been together for about 5 months, but we havent done anything sexually yet! its because i wanted to save it all for marriage, but im so happy with him and i want to sleep with him. im just telling you this so you dont think im sleeping with just anyone. the problem is, im as virgin as they come. i dont know how to toss a guy off or give him head, and im very nervous. im sorry if this is inappropriate, i just want some advice? is this possible? thankyou in advance! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): Head could be in connection with sex and apart from it. I suggest you go slowly: massage him and make that part of activity prior to having sex. The same applies to head.
I cannot stand that word, but I know it's used.
I hope you will reconsider staying a virgin or at least waiting longer. I am afraid that you may find his quickly exiting after sex. It sounds like you have a lot of self-control; maybe you can go longer without sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): You don't have to do anything to make him erect. Given the situation and the anticipation, he'll probably get that way on his own, just by thinking of you and seeing you in a sexual way.
But head is part of forplay that a lot of people like to take part in, just to make things last longer. It may be a good idea for you to start with a handjob though before immediately put your mouth on it. It's all sort of nerve wrecking the first time, so you don't want to move too quickly. Which is why i also suggest waiting a little longer for sex, until you've done other things with him sexually. But it's your choice. I'm just letting you know what will be easier on you.
Ii dont' like to go into detail with the head and the handjob, but you can easily google the how-tos on those or maybe another aunt will chip in.
~Sy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): thankyou vey much, that really helped! i appreciate the website as well, thought to be honest i think ive decided im going to sleep with him. now im just concerned about the physical stuff ! do you have to give head to a guy before sex to make him errect? or a handjob? or does he sort of just get excited by himself lol? thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): For the head part firstly you need to think whether you want to do it. A LOT of women don't give head because they are not comfortable with that thought. In this circumstance what the boy wants comes second.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Hi honey, i'm so glad you came to ask questions before you did anything. Firtly though, I want to encourage you to wait until your married if that's always been your goal. All we really have in life are our goals and we have to hang on to them with integrity. But I'll give you advice just in case my words don't magically change your mind.=)
Before you have sex, you have to at least buy condoms. Those are found in lots of places: drug stores, gas stations, grocery store pharmacies.. don't go for the cheapest one. Go for the most trusted ones.
Be very careful with any part of sexual activity. You have to make sure that his sperm goes in a controlled location so it doesn't end up anywhere that could possibly get in your privates. Wash your hands thouroughly after touching any of it. There's a very good artical you should read by one of our aunts here. I really advise you to read it in full. It will extremely helpful. Here's the link:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thinking-about-losing-your-virginity.html
You have to fully understand the consequences of sex. There are far too many young girls who come to this site, deperate and somehow shocked that they have fallen pregnant after diciding that they were mature enough to start having sex. Afterall, reproduction is what sex is in exsistence for and condoms are not 100% efficient. NOTHING is. Not even surgical procedures. So you should try your hardest to muster up the courage to talk to your mom about this. She can get you some better birth control than just condoms. She may not be happy, but she'll want you to be safe. And she probably knows that if you want to have sex, you will find a way and she will therefor make sure you go about it the best way possible.
So read the artical, and as for the head and such, i'll leave that the others. Take care.
~Sy.
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