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writes:Dear Aunts and Uncles, Firstly thank you so much for taking time to read my question. I really do need help. I have recently come out of an abusive relationship, I have been out for roughly three months. It was a terrible experience that has shaken me to my core. After I got out I made the mistake of diving straight into another relationship to fill the void and that didn't work as he started showing signs of manipulation, control, jealousy and mistreatment. I didn't stay long to confirm my suspicions. Now that I am truly alone I have to face the demons of my first abusive relationship and I am finding it very hard to cope. Memories are triggered and I constantly cry. I feel very broken and am unsure how to even find the pieces to put myself back together again. I want nothing to do with my abuser and maintain a strict no contact rule and it has helped quite a bit but I am still struggling to just be ok. Another thing hindering my progress is the fact that I've realized that there where a lot of abusive elements in my life in the form of user type friends and as a result I have cut off my best friend and a large chunk of my social network. This has left me with very few people to reach out to and use as a support system and I carry the loneliness with me everywhere I go. Please give me advice on moving on with my life and getting over the abuse which has shattered me into a billion tiny pieces. Thanks again for reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for taking time out to read and respond. Your words truly touched me and inspired me so thank you again ihatewomanbeaters *big hug*.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 Sometimes, what we have to do, in order to build a good life, we have to tear the old one down..
You have torn all the bad out of your life, and now you have the materials to build the foundation for a great new one.
Take some time to work on yourself and start from the ground up.
Focus on you.
Here are some things that might help.
What are some hobbies you have?
What interests you?
Find like minded people with similar interests, etc.
Ultimately, however, all we really need is ourselves to make all the difference in our own world.
You were a victim, now you are a survivor, and what you are doing and will be doing in the very near future will make you transcend to conqueror.
Continue on the path you have set for yourself and you will soon be doing better than ever.
You are your own savior.
-IHateWomanBeaters
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