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41-50,
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writes:Hi, First of all thanks to all your guys for taking time to read and answer. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me a month ago. He lives in another country now because of a career shift. But for 3.5 years we were in the same city. We were thinking about getting married this year. Since the breakup I first went in panic mode, then limited contact mode. He would answer my calls, make friendly conversation, and hang up. He has never initiated contact on his own. We have been very close and had our share of problems. But this came quite out of blue. Though I am sure he must have been planning for a while. Ever since he moved to another country (5 months ago) I have already visited him twice to help him made transition. Now he is gone! What should I do? My thought is to cease all contacts with him for a month or two and see what happens. If he doesn't get in touch with him at all, should I fly once more to his country to talk to him? The root cause of the problem is that he doesn't think I love him enough, though that is not true!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Hi Cella, it breaks my heart to hear this answer. Is there nothing at all I can do?
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reader, cella  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 o my god this remindes me of asimular situation i went through.first of all i just want to say dont even think about travelling out there again,he has treated you terrably,he isnt even trying to make any sort of effort with you. yes you love him dearly,and if it is like my situation,it is a very hard time in your life,my advice,as hard as it may seem at the time is to txt him 1 last time saying goodbye that you are changing your number and then move on with your life and eventually meet a guy who treats you the way you DESERVE to be treated,cellaxxx
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