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anonymous
writes:I was with my ex for just over a year. Over the last three months our arguements were getting worse and worse and then finally he snapped and threw me about a little abit. I've been to the police and haven't pressed charges because thats it we will never be together again. The problem is now he wont leave me alone, he keeps telling me how much he loves and things. I dont want anything to do with him anymore. The major problem is that we work together. Now he keeps coming up to me and telling me he wants to be friends and that i'm being childish; that i broke his heart and i got a few bruises. I dont want to be with someone like that and espeacially be friends with him. Am i really ****ed in the head to think that or is he being out of order for not leaving me alone no matter how many times i tell him. I dont know what to do?!?!? should i just totally blank him? I'm so depressed because i dont go out with my work friends because he is there and i have no one. what should i do?
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reader, Butterflys  +, writes (30 September 2010):
I really believe u made the right decision , Men like that it just get's worse both physically & mentaly.
You should start looking for another job the further away from him the better.
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reader, futurelawyer  +, writes (6 March 2008):
get a restraining order if he gets fired
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (6 March 2008):
 This guy is completely in the wrong, he's done something that he can never take back. He doesn't have the right nor does he deserve to be your friend. if he really truly loved you he would understand what he did to you was wrong, and that he can't get back what you had.
You should be made to feel worse about the situation. Don't let him stop you from having a life away from him.
Remove him from you life all together
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (6 March 2008):
 O.k. I have seen a similar situation at a workplace of mine. Nobody knew because the girl was too ashamed to say anything. But when she got the confidence we all supported her and the guy who was abusing her was hounded out of the company as nobody would work with an abuser.
First , if you have a human resources department go straight to them, if you are worried speak to a female first. Tell them everything , how he intimidates you and is harrassing you. This man is dangerous, a control freak and you are very lucky to be out of it. But he won't let go as he wants to control you.
If you don't have a human resources department then tell a manager who you trust. It will be a simple case of him being told to stop it or he will be fired. In this day and age workplaces are very sensitive to women being abused by colleagues as you can sue them if he did anything to harm you.
So try your HR dept first or a manager, if nothing happens there then either leave your place of work ( the last resort as he then wins ) or go to the police. One thing is for sure he will not stop until someone tells him to.
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