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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): The job is a problem, but not why you think. People are looking for happiness. A lot of people in high status positions don't treat those around them well. So a high status position is a warning bell. This makes the people you date somewhat on the lookout for signs of imperiousness, or intolerance, or ready irritability. Hardly the right mindset for a successful date.
It's probably necessary to come across as very genuine. I certainly wouldn't eat somewhere so fancy that your partner couldn't pay the bill. Save the "I'll pay treat" for later.
Your children might be a problem, but I really think that's more true for younger people. By your 40s it is assumed that people have already lived a life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): It's not the business, it's the kid.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 It would not be a problem in Texas, but I do not know about Great Britain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2011): I can't really say, but I can tell you how I feel.I have no problem dating a woman with a high status position. In fact, the woman I am currently with is a cardiologist. I have never been with an attorney, but I would love to be able to screw one instead of the other way around for once. However, I am also educated and successful. If I hadn't finished high school, for instance, I think I might be a lot more intimidated by such a woman. I definitely think it can be a factor.However, I think the bigger factor is that you have a child. Lots of men do not have a problem with this. My own dad married my mom and adopted her three daughters from her first marriage before I was even born. I don't think I could do it, however. I know my best friend has told me that he couldn't do it either. I have great respect and admiration for men that can and do, but it's definitely not for everyone.Don't let that get you down, though. As I said, my dad did marry my mom and she had three kids. There is someone out there for you! You just haven't met him yet!
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reader, Odds +, writes (21 August 2011):
 Owning your own business won't scare away a guy by itself, but it does put the guy on high alert for ball-busting attitude. The belief is that women are simply not attracted to men who earn less than they do (I think this belief is largely accurate, but there are exceptions). Once a guy finds out you have a business, he is much more likely to interpret even minor things as signs that you will make a lot of demands of him. The thing is, whether this belief is accurate or not, the perception exists, and you'll have to work to avoid it.
Having a kid is also likely to make a lot of men take off. That's a whole new dimension in the relationship - it means he can't just date you, he also has to ingratiate himself with a new person. He may also worry that you are just looking for someone, anyone, to lighten the load. Again, whether that is accurate or not, it's the perception you have to work against, and the only way to fight it is to very, very carefully avoid giving that impression, even a little. This is doubly true for men in their 50's who are likely the age group you're best off dating.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (21 August 2011):
When I was younger and poorer I met a great woman online that turned out to be an executive of a high-profile business. She had a grown daughter.
It did not stop me, and it did not stop her. It wasn't the love of a lifetime, but it was a great fling. No regrets at all on my part.
Anyway, all I am saying is that if I can handle a woman being a "power chick" and that has a kid, so can another man.
Maybe you can meet someone who is also a business owner and a single Dad? You know, online might be the best place to look. As one (now) business owner to another, it is the most time-efficient investment in finding someone. I met my wife on a dating site.
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