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writes:I just turned 16 two months ago. I have been dating my boyfriend for two yaers now, and well we´ve had a past thats not so cute. He´s been real aggressive and stuff but thats not the problem now. Well im pregnant with his baby and im really nervouse to tell my parents. He´s told me to go live with him but i dont think that would be a good idea. I have a really nice relationship with my mom not my dad though. Since he cheated on my mom we dont get along and well we´ve had our fights up real bad ones. Im scared to let thme know because I know my dad is really aggressive and more when he´s drunk so i dont kow what to do. I´ve been looking for the right time but it seems there is´nt one. I know my mm is going to be dissapointed becuase she doesnt like my bf. What im more worried about is that i´ve been having really bad stomache pain lower abdomine and all my stomach im 9 weeks pregnant and want my mom to be there just dont know how to let it out.
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reader, Ordinary Woman  +, writes (6 February 2011):
May be if you tell your mum she will be able to help you, and things will not be so scary. Sooner or later they are going to find out so keep them onside as much as you can, there will be an initial reaction but it will be better if it comes from you.If you are in pain, your doctor will be able to help, because that must be scary for you too, and you need to look after yourself.If you think that you are with the wrong man then, from experience, try not to con yourself into believing that the best place for you to be is with the father of your child. Trouble relationships are not good for children or for you (or for him). Bringing up children on your own is tough, and in my experience bringing up children in a troubled relationship is harder. This does not mean that people do not mature, but a cautious approach may save you and your child (if you keep it) a lot of heartache in the future.Why not pick a time when Dad is not home or drunk, grab a coffee with your mum sit down together (insist if you have to)and say 'mum there is something I need to tell you..' and just tell her.She is your mum and she probably half knows anyway, so make it soon.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): Please tell your mum, she is going to have to know sometime, you need her to help you, or as Blonde68 says see you doctor, don't ignore the pains you are having.
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reader, MissADC81 +, writes (6 February 2011):
 Do you have a GP that you can go to? They might offer you some help regarding how to tell your parents ...etc
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (6 February 2011):
Please do not keep this to yourself any longer... you need all the support you can get right now! I am assuming you want to keep the baby...yes/No??
If you cannot talk to your mum first, then I advise you to at least make an appointment to see your GP... You must do this straight away!! They will be able to tell you what your options are and put you in touch with a Midwife & Nurse who will be able to not only support you during the different stages of your pregnancy but also there for you to talk and seek advice about telling your parents.
Yes I am sure your mum will not be too pleased with you at first, but once she is over the initial shock she will support you 100% because that is what mums do.
As for moving in with your boyfriend, I personally don't think this is a good idea for the moment... You are both very young, and appear to fight somewhat... this is something you don't need whilst pregnant. You are going to be suffering emotionally and physically, you will be tired, suffering morning sickness... the list is endless.
You must not hide this any longer from your parents... seek help hun, because you are going to need it!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): You should go to your parents. You are in a world of trouble, but whats done is done. You can't fix the past. The best thing you can do now is get help before its too late. You are barely 16. You CAN NOT face something like this on your own. You are young, you have a long life ahead of you. This will not ruin your life if you deal with it appropriately. If your really afraid of your parents reaction, your teachers are your next best friend.
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reader, Shelley Harris +, writes (6 February 2011):
 This happened to me. I was abused and my abuser told me not to tell and threatened me. I didn't tell anyone and felt so alone, after a while it was obvious. I had to have an abortion at 22 weeks. I was two weeks away from my 16th Birthday This has caused me great pain all my life. It is important to tell your MUM yes she will be cross, but because she cares for you. Don't leave it like I did. Please get help NOW.
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