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writes: Had a wonderful party on New Years Eve but feel annoyed and disappointed with some of my friends and relatives. Sent out invites to a new year's eve party - only 36 out of 105 people came to the party. Seems a low number to me - is that the usual percentage for a party? The people who have annoyed me are the ones who didn't even have the decency to reply (even though the invites said rsvp by such and such a date) to my invitations or said they were going to come and then didn't turn up - there seemed to be an awful lot of people who suddenly became ill on new year's eve (excuses I think). So, what are the real reasons why these people could not come? Did they not want to see us? Not the partying kind? I wondered if people were waiting for better offers. I am also amazed people had already made arrangements for New Years Eve months ago - I sent the invites out months ago. I feel abit insulted by it all because I feel that alot of them were lying to me. I can't believe there are people who wouldn't come to a party and a free feed!!! We had to buy way too much food in case these inconsiderate people turned up. I ended up with so much left-over food afterwards. I just find it exceptionally rude not to reply to an invitation. Does anyone else find it exceptionally rude? Should I mention how rude I found it to some of these people or keep my mouth shut? I am seething about it!!! Any suggestions as to how I could say in a jovial way how annoyed I am? I think I should say something and risk losing their friendship because they don't seem like good friends/family anyway. Some people I can't believe are related - for example one relative brought his whole family along which I was thrilled about, his two siblings however didn't even acknowledge receipt of the invitation even though they knew about the party. One supposedly close friend of mine didn't even acknowledge receipt of the invitation even though she knew about the party, yet her parents replied to the invitation and turned up as well. Reply to this Question
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reader, mystify +, writes (4 January 2006):
 i wanted to reply to this as i feel for you, i had this happen on my wedding day i sent out the invites people said they were coming , i spent a fortune on food and a disco then loads of people didnt turn up and outt of the ones who did some left before the food and half the rest left before the disco !
it was such a shame and i too felt so drained,like noone took the day or the money id spent seriously but for some reason even though wanted to i couldnt bring myself to say anything and i think this was cos their was just so many of them i thought i would get better peace of mind from letting it go
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (4 January 2006):
 Dear, i agree with u there could have let u know earlier if they werent coming. i usually do that if i have a special invitation to a party and i know i cant make it. But what u should realise is that no everyone think this way.
Also, New year eve is a special day and alot of people have different plans for that period. it becomes difficult sometimes to make up their minds on time what event to actually engage themselves in. whether to go out specially with their immediate families, to pubs, clubs, or parties.
Again, if u did send the invitations months ago some might have forgotten about it.
You could bring up the issue with them when u see, maybe u could say "i was looking forward to seeing u at the party".i wouldnt make it a really big deal. its their loss really.
All the best dear.
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