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writes:I recently read a self-help book called "He's Just Not That Into You"..This book seems to suggest that men should not be approached first by women as it never works out that way. The author insists that if a man is interested, then things will happen. But I feel that life is too short to sit about and wait for a man to chat you up. God forbid you should approach him as the relationship would then be doomed. Fellas, do you agree? Would a forward woman put you off? Does the girl who was hard to get ultimately meet your mother? Alyssa, 18. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2006): I think there is nothing wrong with inviting a man out for coffee or lunch, if you think you'd like to get to know him better! I've done it and have no qualms about it. If he agrees, that's nice. If he's not interested, well, rejection is painful, but you lose nothing, and better to know at the outset.
As for the "He's Just Not That....." I agree with the other poster! I have not - and would not - read it. It seems like a lot of nonsense. (If the author is going to have his own show in the Fall, here's one woman who won't be watching it!)
Yes, a lot of guys would be flattered. If he says no, or doesn't seem too keen, just don't go tearing after him, that's all! Plenty more fish in the sea!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2006): Get rid of that book. My sister-in-law has it and it's awful and tries to enforce 1950's housewife crap on women. Now she feels like she's doing nothing right. (The guy that wrote that is a comic, so maybe it was meant as satire? I don't know, but now he's getting his own show in the fall which is plain ridiculous if this is the kind of advice he'll be shelling out to people.)
Anyways, guys will most likely be flattered if you approach them. And please don't play "hard to get" - for anyone mind games are so childish, don't you agree? I know that I'd rather have someone honest and who shows interest in me, not in games and how long i'd be strung along instead of have a chance to develop a healthy/caring relationship.
Just do what you feel comfortable with! I was up front with my last boyfriend and now he's my husband. :)
(And I have to say again - get rid of that book!)
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