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writes:I think this is an interesting question for discussion. We have had much discussion on social groups, friends, etc. So my next question is, why would some people fit you right into their group of friends and for others, hell would have to freeze over before they would include or invite you? Both are friends of yours.Next, do you think that there are more people who would include you into their group or do you think that there are more who would not invite you or include you into their group that they get together with? I'm not talking about including just anyone but someone who is a friend of yours.Is it expecting too much, if you are new in a community for a friend to include you into their group? What are your thoughts, ideas and opinions on this? I am interested in what you think and how you feel about this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): HiNo it is not too much to ask...and i would question the true value of your so called friend. Sounds very clannish this group .If you are not welcome... and your friend is such a weak minded individual... make your OWN NEW ELITE GROUP, and don't invite any of the tossers...invite people OUTSIDE THE COMMUNITY...EVEN SHOCK EM GO EXTREME with who and what you invite, THEN invite them . Open their eyes and minds.Regards friendship I would move mountains to involve my friend/s and would feel hurt because they were UNWELCOME. I live by 'my home is your home' stranger or friend. Who wants to be in a poxy GROUP anyway, when you can have the UNIVERSE ....join in something bigger and better .via con dios.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): People who accept you right away, are nice, positive and have a good view of life. One's who don't invite you in into their confined little social group, are not. Simple as that.
Those kind of groups are called cliques and I don't like cliques. They're not designated just to teenagers...adults do this sort of thing, all the time! They exclude others from their exclusive little social group.
Making new social contacts and friendships should be fun, relaxed and easy, not fraught with tension, nit picking and strategizing to see who's in up to par and who's not. That is ridiculous. And parents need to stop doing this...their own children are watching this negative way of forming friends, and it takes root, in high school and in elementary school ages..
So... moving past the small, limited world of the social clique. is something I have done always. And it works for me. I find that meeting new people is so much fun, it's energizing! . Moreover, friendships are forged on many levels fulfilling different needs. They don’t all have to be equally intense. They don't have to even have the same interests, but new friends can bring something new in another's life..something to learn and can help enhance a person's life. And also, newcomers to any good social group do need to be patient, taking things slowly and lightly. Friendships take time to bond and deepen. It doesn't happen overnight!
But best of all, I think forming good social oulets, all boils down to cultivating a strong core of self-confidence in yourself. Accept who you are. Never, ever compare yourself to others that just totally drains you of personal power, robbing you of a perception of your own uniqueness. Express yourself genuinely and take yourself out of the competition. Simple as that.
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