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*pretty angel~
writes:I've been going out with my boyfriend for two months now. Just about a month ago I found out that I wasn't the only one that he was in love with. I was shocked at first and then found out the other girl started dating another guy. Just recently I've found out that he's still in love with her and two other girls. I know everyone will say "just leave him, he's no good for you" but I just can't do that. I love him with my heart and soul. He's treated very badly at home and he likes to feel loved and wanted. I think that's why he loves them to. They don't even live in the same state as us and I know for a fact that internet relationships don't work. Should I just wait to see if he stops loving them? By the way, I'm 14 going to be 15 and my boyfriend is 16. Reply to this Question
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reader, ~pretty angel~ +, writes (24 January 2009):
~pretty angel~ is verified as being by the original poster of the questionActually, I talked to him about this tonight. I do believe he is honest, that if why he told me about the other girl. The two others are just his friends and that he loves them like sisters. He was flipping out because I was so upset about this and he told me not to worry about the future. He said he cared about me and I believed his every word. I do appreciate the advice though, so thank you.
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reader, PunkyPippi  +, writes (23 January 2009):
 Did you find out because he told you, or did you find out because other people told you?
Is this guy honest? At 16, most guys don't really know what love is all about, they just have a ton of hormones in them that turns their head every five minutes.
I would just try to be his friend, and you can still love him, but know that you're not the only one. It's going to hurt, and you should just leave him, but if you're bent on sticking around, know all the facts about his other "relationships" and know you're not the only one, and you probably won't ever be.
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reader, lovesalias +, writes (23 January 2009):
 I know that it is hard sweetie but I think you need to talk to your boyfriend about the situation and express without crying how it makes you feel to know that his heart does not belong to you and you alone. I know you want to be there for him but you can't alienate your own feelings just because you feel bad about his life situation. You have to do what makes you feel good. Take some time to think about what you want and how you want to feel and if he cant be those things for you you will know how to proceed. A relationship is a give and take on both sides 50/50.
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