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writes:I met a girl once, with whom I had an instant connection (at least physically). Our eyes met frequently during this themed dance night on a vacation boat.We ended up talking and it was clear from the outset there was a strong attraction between us. Over the coming days we spoke more and hung out more. Eventually one night we went out to see a show and afterwards we went out for a walk and headed aft to look at the water and beautiful night sky.We did embrace but did not kiss, because I felt she did not want to for whatever reason.Over the next days, I felt under the impression of being given the cold shoulder. No conversation, and avoiding me. As a result, I thought f**ck this and enjoyed myself with other people and didnt think of her again.It was not until a couple days after the end of the trip that she suddenly adds me on facebook (strangely enough, i did not give her my last name) although she must have seen my cruise card.Anyway she apologised for 'going weird on me' as she put it, apparently she freaks out when guys get too close.Anywho, over time i asked if she wanted to hang out sometime and she agreed. Now, 2 weeks later ive called her and then txted her casually, to which Ive not received a reply for a day or so.So Id like to ask, is this worth pursuing? and if so, how should I go about it considering her somewhat frigid state?(Im 21 and shes only 18 if that is of any relevance.)
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (7 January 2011):
 It did go too fast for her likings..seems as though she may be into being friends than a romance. Plus, she's already admitted she has an issue with guys getting too close, meaning relationships all together.
I would let it go, seeing as if you tried to pursue her this girl would require a LOT of work. In the end it's not worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): Hey pal!
Thanks for your post. You know what man just be persistent with her in who you are. She is obviously cautious and youll hafta earn her trust. Do that by respecting her space and not hounding her but at the same time keeping in touch. Dont chase mind you as there is a difference between breaking down barriers and a stupid game. If you play the game, you may risk going into the relationship exhausted from being persistent so as to say "Now I finally have her, I can relax". Avoid that by all means. Good luck.
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