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anonymous
writes:so here is my problem....There is a boy whom i love madly. v met on facebook n then after some days of chatting, he proposed me. i told him to think again n see my photo 1st of all bt he said that he love me for what i am and will never leave me whether i am ugly or gud looking....he said he want to marry me and he is very serious about our relationship and all that. but some days later i sent him my photo, after seeing it he told me that he didnt want to be in relation wid me anymore. i asked why?he replied that he deserve better than me......i remained silent and didn't said anything but wept whole night....now he is saying he wants to be my friend only and not lover........!! so what should I do now. I don't want to lose him but i know he doesn't love me. plz help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): hey thanks to all of you.........thanks 4 helping me.........
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): Well, first off I think he was pulling your leg about the proposal. I dont think anyone would do such a thing without even meeting the person or knowing the person in the first place. If he did mean what he said you might just wanna not be friends with him I dont think you'd wanna be talking to a person like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): i think its kinda weird for someone to propose to you online, but he shouldnt change his mind on the proposal just because of how he looks
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reader, curious0hot  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 Darling, I strongly doubt he was serious in the first place. You don't know him. You've never met him. You were just talking on the Internet for "some days". Wipe your tears, it's just e-flirting. People say all sorts of things. For future reference, when someone says they want to marry you (1) in a matter of days, (2) without knowing what you look like, (3) without knowing what you sound like, (4) without every meeting you face-to-face, and (again) in a matter of days... He's not serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): You need to stop giving your heart on the internet! You cannot fall madly in love with someone after chatting with them on facebook! You need to meet him for that.
What if you met this "lover" and he had bad breath or he farted loudly in public or scratched all the time - you would not know that from chats! So maybe you deserve better.
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reader, Aida +, writes (30 January 2010):
 first of all it's weird that the guy would propose to you after only a few days of chatting. that's a red flag right there. you didn't really know him anyway and thank god you know now what a complete ass he is. had you married this guy he would have caused you a lot of heartache. im sure he's talking to a lot of girls online and you're not the first one he's proposed to. move on and don't waste another thought on this guy. find someone more deserving of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): Im so sorry to read this.
Big Hug for you ok. Wow is all I can say to the fact that you dont want to loose him.
This was an increadibly ugly thing for him to say to you, but sadly its the truth. So now you know where the relationship is at.
Now its time to let him go, just get him out of your life now, because everytime you see him it will remind you of what has happened. Beleive it or not but each day you think of him it is doing psychological damage to you, those scars take a very long time to heal and sometimes dont at all.
So get him out of your life now, let the tears flow and let yourself get over it. Because there is a great guy just for you. And if you wallow in this mess too long you just might miss him
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (30 January 2010):
My advice is that you drop this rubbish guy. You are the one who deserves better. Do you know that there are men who think Aishwarayi Rai is ugly? But do you think that would ever stop her from living her life? Forget about this guy and meet somebody who will treat you better. Next time, my advice is that you send pics within a week of chatting to someone before the love talk begins. That way, they don't have this fake image of you in their mind that no woman can ever live up to. Within 2 weeks from now you will be fine. Don't call him or even be friends with such a piece of crap. The truth is that men are visual creatures so any pics you send in future must be of you looking your best with a pretty smile and styled hair. It sounds superficial but its the way it is. All the best in future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): He proposed to you a few days after chatting online? Is he for real? I wonder how many other women he has proposed to online?
Sounds like he is lonely, sad, selfish and very shallow. Don't cry tears of sadness, cry tears of happiness that you are rid of this loser! Get out there in the real world and find a real man who will love you no matter what you look like.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): Look at this seriously, you never met in real life, and you only talked for days, he's probably talking to many girls online! It would have been unlikely that you would get married anyways seeing as you had never met!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): Hello. This guy sounds very odd and rather rude! I would not bother to be friends with him if i were you. Find some nicer people to chat to online x
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