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writes:A girl who I label as my friend had given me a Christmas card. What does this mean?For the past 11 weeks, I noticed that she is the only one I treated as a special person. I honestly did not know why. Possibly because she is my partner as the student representative for our class and she seemed like a nice person. Our conversations would last long but we do not frequently contact each other with text, if anything, it is strictly business. And the single reason why it seems I have treated her with a unique speciality in comparison to my peers is due to the fact I had given her a surprising gift (2 small stuff toys that I had won in an arcade). She knew it was a friendly gesture because I told her before giving it. The other was me helping her calm down during a presentation. She revealed to me that she has anxiety when facing a crowd so as a good friend, I told her that next time to hide behind me because I did not want to see her nervous again. Well... That was all from my memory, she smiles at me whenever we meet and I noticed that she stares at me for approximately 4 seconds, only if we are in a class and not in a lecture hall. So now, the end of first term, off for Christmas break. She was walking behind me as I was talking to one of my friends until she called my name to give the card. Honestly, it surprised me a lot that anyone would have actually done this for me.Basically, my question is: What does this card mean? Is my assumption that she likes me, right or is this just my mind playing games?
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reader, Hopelessromanticsyndrome +, writes (1 February 2021):
Hopelessromanticsyndrome is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUPDATE!!
Thank you for all your answers, what happened after a year was that she actually did like me and she asked me out on a friendly date, where we agreed to have dinner. We talked like we always did but about each other because I wanted to know more about her.
We tried to make it work but she was too busy and I was far away for work placement. We ended up being friends instead.
Till this day, we acted like nothing changed and we are both happy being our individual selves.
I knew it was just a friendly gesture but I overthink about the most simplest of things. Either way, thank you all for your answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2019): I would say your obsession with this Christmas card and fixation on how many seconds she stares at you for etc says you like her much more than you let on and it's you reading too much into it.
Sorry but a Christmas card is just a friendly token from one person to another.
If you're so fixated on finding out whether she likes you, ask her out. If it turns out she does likes you then I guarantee she will appreciate that a whole lot more than playing guessing games.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2019): She gave you a Christmas card because she wants to wish you a Merry Christmas. Why does it have to mean more than that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2019): OP, due to your kindness to this girl, she wanted to reciprocate your kindness, to wish you a Merry Christmas. I agree with Wise Owl, this is not romantic, but due to a nice friendship between two kind people, I think that there is potential, for a dating relationship. Good luck my Friend, and like Wise Owl said, You are one of the Good Guys! Merry Christmas OP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2019): It's a token of her appreciation, and an act of friendship. You go out of your way to be kind, supportive, and you seem to be one hell of a great guy! She confided something in you, and you weren't judgy; and you held it in confidence.
There is no doubt that she likes you. You have been very nice to her. It doesn't mean she likes you more than in a friendly-way. That's to be determined. If you get-up the nerve to ask her for a date, yes or no will let you know in what way she likes you.
I wouldn't take the gesture for anything more than what you intended with the stuffed toys you gave her. Wink-wink!
Christmas cards are only romantic if they have a romantic message or are illustrated in a way that indicates they are meant for a love-interest, or actually identify you as her boyfriend. If it's just a lovely generic Holiday card with a friendly greeting, that's all it is. Now if she gives you a card on Valentines Day; she might be trying to tell you something.
Are you hoping for it to mean more than that?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 December 2019):
 Don't you know that giving a Christmas card is a FRIENDLY gesture?
I mean, I send ALL my family AND friends Christmas cards EVERY year. Most people do.
So when you gave a stuffed toy as a FRIENDLY gesture, SHE returned that gesture and gave you a Christmas card, that's it. It's not that deep, man.
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