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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been friends with this guy for eleven years. About two years ago he told me that he was absolutly in love with me. It scared the crap out of me cuz he sent me messages saying I'll love you until death. And I will always love you no matter what and it got really bad so I decided to call him and tell him. He knows I dont't feel that way about him by a long shot but he NEVER gives up. I don't know what to do I thought I could handle it by ignoring his love for me and focusing on our friendship. It didn't work and now he says stuff like I would die without you in my life. And he has been going to a group about him cutting himself so I thought it was getting better but he called me one night (after I posted on my myspace that my boyfriend finaly kissed me) and said that it hurt so bad he has four new cuts just for me. I slammed the phone shut and ignored the rest of his calls. I cried all night. I don't know what to do he is vunerable and if my current relatoinship continues it will hurt him more( he once asked me to brake up with my bf and I told him no, then the next day his mom told me he was taking more group classes ) but I WILL NOT BRAKE UP with my bf for him. I feel terrible and don't know what to do plz plz help!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (16 November 2007):
 Let your "friend" know that if he continues his behavior, you will speak to his parents as well as school counselors.
If he is in love with you, he is not your friend, but an interested suitor. His interest sounds like is turning into obsession.
Cut all ties and realise the friendship was over when he started to have feelings for you.
Protect yourself.
BTW, Myspace and other such public places is NEVER the place to discuss your private relationship like that. You bring this kind of attention on yourself.
-Frank B Kermit
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