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writes:A few weeks ago my boyfriend confided in me that he drinks. He didn't tell me before b/c he was afraid of how I'd react. I'd told him I didn't like people that bragged about drinking.I went to a halloween party my friend was having at her house yesterday. My boyfriend is friends with her and he'd planned to bring drinks. But she and I both said absolutely not. So He and his friends decided to drink before they came later on. A sober friend brought them to her house.Anyway, they were all fall over drunk. And for a while they were having a lot of fun. But I wasn't having fun anymore the moment they arrived. They kept boasting about how much my bf could drink. An hour and a half later my bf was throwing up in the bathroom...which lasted for 2 hours. When i did go in he said he was sorry many times, asked why he went to this extreme, said he didn't know why, and said he needed me. His bestfriend told me he didn't want me to be ma at my bf. And if i told him to stop he would, but I just don't believe him now. And he said that he's scared he'll lose me. I don't know what to do. help please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): I think it depends on the nature of how much this boy drinks. There is a huge difference between recreationally drinking (even to the point of being sick) and having an alcohol dependency problem.I've lost count of the times in my teens that I was drunk and ended up being sick, it was all part of the fun of growing up. With that said, it is not true at all that it takes "10 - 20 years of solid drinking everyday" for someone to become an alcoholic - that is completely wrong and seriously bad advice.Teenagers, and even some children can end up in detox, or on courses such as AA or NA (Alcoholic's anonymous / narcotics anonymous). There are no age limits that determine when someone can and can't become dependant on a substance. Rather an addiction is often (but not always) a symptom of much deeper underlying issues in life and the substance is used as a way of dealing or removing that pain.You know your boyfriend best. Is he a teen just enjoying his parties and his alcohol - or does he have an alcohol problem? Is his education, relationships, friendships and family suffering? If his drinking is causing problems for these things then it is likely he has a problem with alcohol.There is a huge difference between the two extremes of using alcohol and you need to be able to see where he is between the two. It is only then will be able to know what action to take or what advice you are told applies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): Big deal if he got drunk and trew up. It is perfectly normal form of rage for a boy of his age (I assume he's about the same age as you). He obviously does not know how to drink. It takes 10-20 years of solid everyday drinking for someone to become an alcoholic. You Americans are so pathetic hipohondrics! You make it a problem if someone gets drunk twice a year. Here in Europe most of the people drink every day, and for weekends EVERYBODY gets drunk. And, guess what - we're doing just fine. Our lifespan is at least as long as in America, and plus we do not carry automatic weapons and shoot people around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): Throwing up is a sign of alcohol poisoning, I lost a step-brother to this on his 21st birthday, please discuss this with your boyfriend, it may make him think about drinking so much
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (29 October 2007):
 hi.
you need to take your boy friend to see a doctor so that he can be sent to rehab, the amount it seems he is drinking is way in access for his KIDNEYS AND LIVER to take, i have never known a person of his age to throw up for two solid hours he really is in a bad way.
I am scared that he may loose his life if he continues down this road, death by alcohol abuse is one of the worst most painful deaths of all, when the liver and kidney become infected then there is no going back, talk to him sweet heart get him sorted as soon as possible.
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