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writes:Hi, I met this girl I know from college a few years back. We just chat whenever we meet, we smoke etc. we done this a few times. she has been talking about her sexual life and how often she needs it, I do not discuss mine. I really didn't know why she brings it up often. Today I grabbed the opportunity and said I can satisfy her needs and she went a bit quiet. Gave me no answer, we ended up talking about other things and that's it. It has confused me so much! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): that may be so, but if she was hinting that that was what she wanted out of you, she probably would have reacted more positively when you made your offer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou lot make girls sound like something out of a fairy tale book. She does not offload her problems to me, I'm not her best friend she tells everything to.
She was talking about a f buddy hardly innocent is it? She stopped meeting him and was talking about how she needs to fill the post.
I agree, perhaps making a move would of gotten me further.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): ...hard call. I could be that she thinks of you as a friend. But I would guess if you had just made a move instead of politely asked, you might have gotten a little farther. :)
Sounds like she's conflicted. At her age, it's pretty common for women to divulge a lot of their sex lives to a "male friend." Part of this tendency has to do with these women sincerely just wanting an ear and perhaps a male perspective on their issues...part of the tendency has to do with their wanting to attract and maintain male attention ...most young women find it an ego boost. She's probably not aware of the latter part of her tendency.
You might tell her you don't really want to hear about all the details of her sex life. "Friends" do have the right to say that to each other...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): I think she probably just needed a friend to talk to and to offload her problems on about all her relationships, and then was shocked when you made your offer. I don't think she saw you that way, if she was talking to you about sex its because she saw you in a non treatening, friend sort of way.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (28 January 2012):
 She isn't interested in you sexually. I think you are in the "friends-zone" and she kind of freak out because you tried to "overstep" the friends boundary.
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