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writes:So, I've got a bit of a dilemma.. my ex boyfriend and I of 3 and a half years broke up 4 months ago and as any other person I was lonely, however, I didn't jump to the chance of having as many things as I pleased.A couple of months ago I met Ryan through some friends, and we hung out almost every day ever since. and soon enough we liked each other. Both him and I were not looking for anything serious, so it worked for both of us, we were nothing official.One night we had a little to drink and started making love.. but it was brief, and uncomfortable for me. You could say, ever since then it was awkward for me, and it didn't happen again. Weeks passed and things didn't go anywhere and we sort of just drifted. Now, he's sort of with a friend of mine and it sort of upset me, but I'm getting over it.And I felt like Ryan and I were not fit for each other, so I had no other choice but to move on. However, I think Ryan still has feelings for me.I met another guy named Alex, through some friends as well and we hit it off and were really clicking (we both have the same zodiac sign) and recently both him and I were invited to a party and at the end of the night we both had a bit to drink and we made love.We spoke a few times after that night and we told each other that we're both not really like that etc etc. so, ever since my bad break up with my ex, I've been petrified of committment! very scared of having someone that could potentially be something good.So, I don't want get close and get hurt, or cause drama..I felt bad after what we did that night, and I don't know why... I don't know what to do, I'm so distracted with all these thought, if anyone has any good suggestions or feedback, please reply! it would really help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks carcass86,that did help,and i'll think about what you said...and just for the record,i dont jump into bed with guys like that,thats why i was feeling bad about what happened after what was done,and i'm still feeling bad,but i'll get over it.
I appreciate your honesty :)
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reader, carcass86  +, writes (23 March 2009):
hi...well i cant really say to much...but you should move on and start living life and be happy about it...dont rush into things with other guys...if they truly love and want to be with you they will be there and you will know it...let the relationship build on its own time...if your a good judge of character then u will know if someone your with is likley to hurt you or not but sometimes you could be surprised even with the nicest of guys...your young yet so dont worry about rushing into serious relationships just yet...there are plenty of years ahead of you to find the perfect someone....dont jump into bed with them right away either because then you probably will get hurt...im a guy and im saying make them work for it...if hes not willing to wait or prove how he feels without lies then hes not worth having. dont know if that has helped but its what i think :]
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